The material presented
here is not Al-Anon Conference Approved Literature. It is a method
to exchange
information, ideas, feelings, problems and solutions on a personal
level.
Todays reading is about gratitude shown by members offers hope to newcomers. It talks about how life changes and the 'world begins to reveal its beauty which was obscured by my worrying over my trouble'
it didnt take me too long in alanon to start lifting my head when i walked and looking at the beauty that was always there. i had spent years lokking at my feet when i walked, ashamed of how i was living, obsessed with the alcoholic, full of fear.
The next part of the reading says that we cant take on anothers burden no matter how much we love them. Another persons issues or problems dont belong to us and arent ours to fix. I found freedom in that realisation. I also came to see that the people in my life were on their own journey, seperate from mine, with their own lessons, good or bad. I cant play god and step on to another persons path and steal away the journey.
I had such low self esteem that I couldn't even look people in the eye. Now I can look at people smile & say Hi. Al-anon taught me to feel good inmy own skin. Every day is a bblessing & I never want to forget that.
I can think about what I've learned when others handled my problems for me - nothing! When I go somewhere with someone else driving, I don't pay attention to the route because I enjoy just riding along; problem is, next time they say - you know how to get there.... and I don't because I wasn't paying attention to the how.
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I am strong in the broken places. ~ Unknown
All changes, even the most longed for, have their melancholy; for what we leave behind us is a part of ourselves; we must die to one life before we can enter another! ~ Anatole France
Great post and responses. I belong in the family too. I read all the readings today and more because I needed to and now the responses are as real as the page. Mahalo. ((((hugs))))
