Its a good one for me.  When we get frustrated that the program ideas are not becoming automatic just yet. We might question ourselves, 'Why dont they penetrate my mind?' 'Why cant I absorb them?' It reminds us of the slogan 'Think' It suggests we stop all our talking and start listening. We can benefit from listening to others and from thinkng through the steps and slogans.

It goes on to say that us compulsive talkers are not really helping others. To help others and ourselves in Alanon we need to listen more actively. Not just jumping in with the first thing that comes to mind.

I am one of those compusive talkers at times. I can also be a good listener. I talk more when im emotional, angry, nervous etc Things are better when I listen, especially with those effected by this disease. With my children, I find the less I say, the more I listen the better they feel or behave. People work out their own solutions if they are given the chance to verbalise them. Im not always part of that solution, sometimes I talk so much that I just become part of the problem. Im a work in progress, just like everyone else.