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AH IS COMING HOME FOM MEDICAL HOSPITAL TOMOROW. IT TOOK HIM 2 DAYS TO SOBER UP AND 2 DAYS FO AN INFECTION TO BE TREATED. CLEANING UP, I DISCOVERED 5 FULL BOTTLES OF VODKA IN THE MATTRESS WHEN I CHANGED THE SHEETS. AH HAS SAID NOTHING ABOUT DECIDING TO GO INTO REHAB. HE GETS PHYSICAL AS FAR AS HOLDING ME FROM LEAVING HOUSE BUT I MANAGE AS MY ACROSS STREET NEIGHBOR GIVES ME SHELTER 24/7
I HAVE TALKED TO MY SPONSER AND OTHERS IN MY FACE TO FACE GROUP. I HAVE A PLAN....TO LEAVE HIM....I AM ABOUT TO BE LAID OFF BUT I DID MY HOMEWOK ABOUT INSURANCE,401 BENEFITS ETC MY SISTER'S HUBBY WILL ALSO HELP ETC I DONT HAVE MUCH MONEY BUT I AM SCOPING OUT PLACES AS I DONT DIVE AND WE HAVE LIVED ABOUT 15 YRS OUT IN THE BOONIES. AH LOST HIS DRIVERS LISCENSE AND CAR THIS PAST YR AND ITS BEEN MOE HELL. I HAVE AN IDEA WHEE I CAN GO NEAR BUSES,MARKETS AND POSSIBLE EMPLOYMENT.
I WILL BE GOING PRETTY SOON AFTER I DO THE TAXES AND FIND A PLACE ETC. I HOPE I CAN LAST THAT LONG. IVE BEEN WITH AH 25 YRS AND LAST 2YRS HAVE BEEN SOOO MUCH HELL U CANT BELIEVE
IM SCARED TO START AGAIN AS I AM 57 AND HAVE SOME HEALTH ISSUES AS WELL AS PRONE TO PANIC ATTACKS
I HAVE A QUESTION TO POSE TO ALL OF YOU.. IS ACCEPTING THE HELP OF FRIENDS A SIGN OF STILL BEING DEPENDANT?? OR SHOULD I JUST ACCEPT GRATEFULLY AND BELIEVE I DESRVE HELP AS LONG AS I GO AHEAD WITH THIS PLAN? DO U ALL KNOW WHAT i MEAN?
Dear Alyce, I am extremely sorry to read that you have been experiencing such a difficult time and am impressed with your well thought out plan to take care of yourself. You sound clearheaded and focused on the positive and in my opinion your decision to permit others to help you at this difficult time is wise.
I will pray for you and your husband and hold positive thoughts.
I believe that we have people in our lives for different reasons. Having the help of friends at such a difficult time is wonderful and I hope it helps you. Be strong, you are not alone.
I had to get help from my friends and neighbors when I left in order to feel safe and to find a place to move. Take good care of you! Sending you love and support on your journey!
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Sending you love and support on your journey always! BreakingFree
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" Pain is inevitable, suffering is optional."
"Serenity is when your body and mind are in the same place."
Oh Alyce....Wow. This one tugs at me. When I left my ex-A, I had nowhere to go but my 1 remaining friends house for 1 month before I could get into my own place. So my answer to your question is emphatically "no" it does not mean you are dependent when you accept help from friends. We all need friends and support at times. All of us. Prayers are with you as you make these changes. You sound pretty courageous...
