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Can't handle the yelling and violence


I met a guy who was a huge whiskey drinker. He totally conned me and beat the hell out of me. He was the cruelest person I've ever met. I don't know how to get over this. The trauma is unreal.



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Im sorry kissers, that sounds awful. Alcoholism is horrible disease. I hope your safe now. My suggestion is go to your nearest alanon meeting and get some support. It could be that the reasons you ended up with this type of relationship need to be explored, or maybe not, but i know i was with an alcoholic for my own issues and it was my own recovery program that made me aware of them and are helping me work on them to make sure if i ever want another relationship it will be healthier and safer for me.

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Hello. I notice you have been here before but I don't think I've met you before now. I'm glad you got out of this mess alive. I guess the only way we can move through trauma is one day at a time just like we heal from the effects of alcoholism. I hope you are going to Al-Anon meetings, have filed charges against him, and have sought the help of a Domestic Violence counselor? I, too, am a survivor of DV and found the guidance of a DV counselor very helpful to me for the trauma suffered and Al-Anon for the effects of living with and/or loving a person with the disease of alcoholism.



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(((Kissers))) I am so very sorry to read this You have taken a huge step by reaching out here . I am gald that you have done so.

As others have suggested, contacting the police, finding a Battered Woman's support group and shelter are all forms of support that are available to you and that will help you to cope and find peace .

You are not alone and there is hope.

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I would report anyone who used violence against me to keep myself safe! I hope you find some al-anon face to face meetings in your area as well. Keep coming back. Sending you love and support!

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(((((Kissers))))) I apologize for each and every time you were physically and mentally and verbally abused.  No one should be a victim to that kind of treatment ever and we perpetrators past and present need a commitment and courage to getting help for ourselves and righting the wrongs we have visited on victims who hardly deserved it.  Go to a Family Protection or Services Agency and ask for help.  Remove yourself from the danger as fast and as best as you can without allowing your perpetrator any information as to where you are and file police reports and get medical evidence.  Perpetrators of violence are often alcoholics and addicts and not in control of their thoughts, feelings and behaviors.  In support.  (((((hugs))))) smile



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Breakingfree wrote:

I would report anyone who used violence against me to keep myself safe! I hope you find some al-anon face to face meetings in your area as well. Keep coming back. Sending you love and support!


 i agree with Breaking.....this guy needs to be turned in, charges pressed.....and whatever it takes to make safety in your space......are there any domestic violence places near you to give you some direction on this???? AND as breaking said, al-anon face to face meetings are in order here b/c you were impacted very very badly by a drinker and its gonna take some work to get you over the hump and back doing ok again.....please keep coming back



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