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I live with my A who has multiple addictions. Yesterday was extraordinary in that I realized that we spent 1 hour together, and I was completely fine to do my own thing for the whole rest of the day. Is this a great marriage you might ask? Heck no. Am I planning to change things when I retire in a couple years? Absolutley yes. But the amazing thing about yesterday is that for most of 23 years, my spouse's lack of attention to me crushed me to the bone. With alanon's help, I can be emotionally fine and even happy, having a day to be with me and my animals. This is a huge, positive change for me, and I just wanted to share it with all of you. I never thought I could break the codependency, and I am. Still working on it, but much, much better. Thanks everyone, Lyne
Dear Lyne, love the title to your posting and I smiled as I read the content. It reminded me of the Al-Anon closing which states:" you can be happy whether the alcoholic is drinking or not. We urge you to try our program".
It is obvious you have diligently worked your program and reaped the rewards. Congratulations.!!! It is a pleasure to be sharing this journey with you as you are another Miracle in Progress.
Keep making you the best you that you can be and then you'll be ready for whatever next step you take. I was blessed enough to find out after several years that ALL those lies about me being too needy and a bunch of other crap about why I was ignored was absolute alcoholic mess...
Other people like me fine and actually enjoy my company.. especially since I worked on my sense of self - what I gave attention to in my mind etc.
Maybe some girlfriends to spend time with (for now) would help reinforce your sense of self like it did mine ( if you even have that need) for me being ignored in my own home made that a huge need. But I wouldn't leave the house because I thought "tonight might be the night when he talks to me, I don't want to miss it LOL )
keep working it! YOU go girl!
-- Edited by glad on Wednesday 4th of February 2015 05:34:56 PM
awesome
