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Need ESH regarding decision making issues and taking risks


Today I took the new job! Yikes!! It will be a big change for me. I did a pros and cons list of both jobs, and this one is looking better than my current job. The commute and parking issues will be a lot better. But, I am now feeling anxious because I prefer to stay with the familiar things in life. That isn't really healthy if the familiar things are causing me more and more stress and burnout. Sometimes my job is ok, but the bad is really outweighing the good in the last few years. My sponsor reminded me nothing is forever. So...if I don't like the job I can look for another one. Nurses are usually in high demand. But...changing the area I work in after 25 years is very scary to me. The training is 6 weeks long starting in March. I moved out last March...hmmm...interesting signs I seem to be getting from HP. 

So can anyone relate to decision making issues? On a side note...one of my current coworkers( a difficult one) who used to be an Advice nurse told me even a monkey could do the job....so I think a monkey scrub top is in order!! I could wear it and if anyone asks about it...I will just say I am feeling like a monkey lately! 



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Congratulations! A new job! This is what you wanted, its 40 hours a week, the commute and parking are better. I guess the only decision I might make here is to thank my HP? Sounds like the decision is already made?

I can understand feeling a little uncertain. You're not working there yet. 6 weeks training, however, would help me feel more solid about my decision. And the knowledge that nursing is a profession that almost always is a guaranteed job somewhere would be a help for me, too. The most important thing in any new endeavor for me is to remember that my HP can be consulted anytime about anything for guidance and wisdom. If I'm listening and responding to that guidance, what do I have to lose?

Congratulations again, NLG! I hope you'll be doing something fun to celebrate?

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Change is scary, but sometimes just what is needed. I am trying to be a nurse and my friends in the field keep telling me about all the opportunities and different places I could work. I am excited. I am also glad you are reaching out of your comfort zone to find a better situation. Sending you love and support!

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Good News NLG You have been given"The Courage to Change".

Trust the process and HP . You can do this so One Day at a Time

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Don't look backwards. I have no doubt you will be great. So whether you like it or not...that is something you will find out and it well help you to know either way. It is highly unlikely you will really dislike it and, if so, you can leave. You are not just a nurse, but an experienced one. In my experience, each time I start at a new job, it is exciting unique and challenging and this is especially so in the first 6 months. Now I like these changes and challenges so much that its harder for me to not seek new jobs and to just stay put. Like you, I can also work in many settings and with different populations. I have worked with severely mentally ill, developmenrally disabled, autistic, foster kids, juvenile delinquents and addict/alcoholics. I am grateful for each of those experiences.

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Thanks everyone! Good idea grateful...to thank HP! The only doubt I have is that I think there is a mindset out there, probably mostly nurses themselves who think "real" nursing is running around on a floor taking care of patients...not sitting at a desk talking to people. But...I will remain confident that I made the right choice for me...and it's my choice...not my co-workers who are sometimes not very nice.
Breakingfree...nursing really is a good profession and we have lots of choices for jobs.

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Congratulations Newlife Girl,

Being given the job is a great affirmation from others and I'm imagining that you will be in a position to learn new things and find out that you can do them well. Great affirmations in store for you to give yourself as well!

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I guess we do the grunt work first, NLG. Then, we become advisers or consultants? Same care for others - just expressed differently. Enjoy the new experience you've agreed to for your life now.

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I used to work for an Employment Agency (until I was laid off in 2009) as a permanent salaried temporary employee.  So I changed jobs, within the agency over a period of 5 years, at least 10 times.  Always stressful to have to change location, work with new people and re-learn a job over again!  By the fifth change I realised and became comfortable with the fact that there always was a period of at least a month to settle in and that the settling period actually went by quickly because I was so focused on my new co-workers and the new job that I had to learn. So I guess what I am saying is don't worry, after the first day at your new job you will be to busy to worry!!!



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Thanks Deb. I will get 6 weeks training so that will help. I am looking forward to a better commute and paycheck too.

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grateful I am not saying my NICU work is/was grunt work. Most nurses consider it to be "real" nursing vs sitting at a desk giving advice. so actually, they think advice nursing is easy and for lazy people. So I know i will be looked down upon at work by some nurses. they can be mean unfortunately. and i will just have to ignore the mean ones.

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Change IS scary but my experiences with changes is that I got to meet a whole lot of different people and see a lot of different geography - we moved 4 times in 5 years because first ex-hubby couldn't be happy anywhere - I met great people and while none of them are part of my life now, it was good for me to figure out that people are just people, wherever you go. Some are nuts, some are characters (nuts you like), some you stay away from because they are bad apples, and a lot of them are ordinary folks you can laugh with. Congratulations and good luck!

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Congratulations .......

Like said many times change is scary but I'm sure the new training and experience it will make you feel like a whole new person. Challenges I think open the mind and bring a new perspective to your life.

I have been working the same job ( PA ) for the last 36 years and due to retire in 3 so not much challenge here... I think after that I can challenge myself with new adventures like Wal-mart greeter ...but I really would like to volunteer at a hospital. I wish I became a nurse because I love helping people.

(((( hugs ))))

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Thanks LMH and Cathy. I am grateful for your insight. I think it will be better because I will be challenging my brain more.

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Congratulations, you are ready to stretch and grow.  And it doesn't have to be forever. I was nervous every time I made a choice, yet I stepped into them anyway.



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What I meant by "grunt work" is the heavy duty hands on type of nursing.  Advice nursing to me is consulting work and is just as valuable.  It's not hands on nursing.  Either one is valuable in its own way.  I have friends who no longer do hands on nursing with others and they are a big help to others in the consulting department.  Something they may not have been able to do without the hands on nursing they did?

As to the nurses who look down on the type of nursing you are going to be doing:  I notice people have their nose up in the air sometimes about things they've never done and form opinions based on air.  Good that you are going to ignore them.  They can't help it.  They have no experience to back up their opinion. 



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Hey newlife,  as bright as you are, I am sure you researched, looked at the pro's and con's and yea, you want to play "percentages in your favor" I am sure you looked into all of that

the fear of the unknown, change   C H A N G E  can scare the *&(* out of me, but if i know in my gut it is right then I do it....i invite my fears to come along...doing that takes their fun away so they leave....

Good luck on your new adventure



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