Has anyone heard from Debylin? - Al-Anon Family Group

missmeliss · ~*Service Worker*~

Has anyone heard from Debylin?

SerenityRUS · ~*Service Worker*~

Her internet may be out.

hotrod · ~*Service Worker*~

Yes I have heard. She was feeling poorly and taking a break.

missmeliss · ~*Service Worker*~

Thanks Betty

glad that's all it is.

Breakingfree · ~*Service Worker*~

I have noticed her hiatus. I hope she didn't lose internet again. I will send her a message on fb. In love and support!

Debilyn · ~*Service Worker*~

thank you for caring.

My health is pretty precarious. Ended up I could not walk day before yesterday. Pain was horrible. My nature is to be always on and busy. But this bone disease is stopping me. My son is keeping touch.

All the stress of this month here really got to me. I am not good with things not being consistent. I need a set of rules to follow. Cannot change anything else but me.

Found I cannot accept and be part of something that does not have a board, decision making by a group or forum and not just one person. The inconsistencies makes me uncomfortable. That is just MY experience.

working hard on my place. watched Hotel impossible....motivated me. lol I chose not to do internet at all for awhile. Found I don't get things done being on it too much.

My son is having a very, very hard time. He had not had a female in his life for years. Had had enough.

He met someone, she moved in...he finds out she is using meth. a HUGE mess. HE is so torn apart and angry. He actually called me and asked for advice. told me every detail. All typical addict bs. Of course he realized she is lying, is prostituirng herself, and drinks too. He immediately changed his locks and made it clear she is to stay away.

Makes me so sad. She is such a beautiful girl. Has kids who are great. good family. she is so sick. He fell in love with her as he took her to his cabin, she hunted for frogs, picked mushrooms and is very earthy. yet she is so dang sick.

My heart is broken for him. he has been sick. went to doc and got a huge dose of med. I pray she did not give him something horrible.

When he was sick again, I told him to get her out of there. she was sleeping in her expedition with her two kids. so he lets them stay in his living room. it is locked from rest of house. she is getting an apt. I told him I am being your mother and friend, you are sick. her disease is making you sick. told him I didn't care if he never spoke to me again that I was going to make her go away. that is how much I love him. but told him I know he is a powerful man and I trust him to take care of it. so he let me know he understood how I feel, but he is taking care of it. I know it would have been wrong for me to get into it. I just hit a low point and was super mom bear.

I am not afraid of being hurt or killed when it comes to my loved ones, or anyone who is suffering, I will help if I can.

anyway I shared all our skills, an al anon things.

glory horse was sick, she allowed me to give her injections with out killing me. she is well now. but caught her foot in her coat strap. bad.she was trying to kick it off got me right in the chest. not a good feeling, ugh. but I got it undone she was ok. i am black and blue.

so lots of drama, concern for son, and busy. a time for growing.

hotrod · ~*Service Worker*~

Nice to hear from you Deb. Reminding myself that I am powerless over people, places and things helps me at difficult times. I am sorry to hear you have been feeling poorly and that your son is experiencing some trouble with his relationship.

Prayers all aorund

andromeda · ~*Service Worker*~

Debilyn, thanks for the update! I've been kicked by a horse before and it is NOT fun! I do hope you heal quickly. So very sorry about your son but it sounds like he is finding out what it is like on the other side of the fence. Sending love and hugs your way!

grateful2be · ~*Service Worker*~

Hi, Debilyn: Good to see you posting. Many prayers for you, your son, your 4 legged family members, and the gal with the Meth addiction and two children, too. Sad stuff to read. I do hope you will be feeling better soon? And that Max might meet a gal who is just right for him, too.

neshema2 · ~*Service Worker*~

I emailed her and asked her if she was "ok"......shes been under the weather but nothing real bad.....

Ohhh just saw a post...........Haaay Deb.....glad to see you are ok enough to do a post........sending you healing energy.....HUGS

-- Edited by neshema2 on Friday 30th of January 2015 05:58:11 PM

neshema2 · ~*Service Worker*~

(((((Deb))))) I just re-read your entire post.....so sorry about son and the g.f. from hell!!! so sad.....prostituting herself for drugs.......i am so grateful that my kids are clean....i thank HP ea. day for that and pray for those mom's and dads whose kids are addicted.......breaks my heart to hear about a young one....

i remember emailing you some notes, but realize that when your feeling poorly, sometimes you need your space...its good to see that you are still kicking, oooops wrong word after reading about miss naughty horse, Glory......

i got kicked ONCE by one of my paints....in the upper thigh...i cried...thought my leg was gonna fall off....and he just kinda side kicked me........hurt, omg....will never 4get it......

i relate to wanting to protect the kids....I try to let them handle their own stuff, but if its uneven, I am jumping in,.....

good to see you are ok enough to post....

Path to Serenity · Senior Member

Hey Deb, I've been away from the board for quite a while dealing with life..ya know. Just want to chime in and say Hi....and give you a ((((HUG)))

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