The material presented
here is not Al-Anon Conference Approved Literature. It is a method
to exchange
information, ideas, feelings, problems and solutions on a personal
level.
I've dated men who I knew after awhile were not right for me or me for them. Saying what I meant, meaning what I said and not saying it mean was the kindest thing I could do for myself and for them. I learned that if a relationship wasn't right for me, it usually wasn't right for the other person either. Just one of us had to the hard work of being honest and open with the other.
We learn to make our own good choices based upon the outcomes we want and need. I was taught if I found out I made a mistaken choice it was my responsibility to go back and correct it. All choices are changeable. Keep coming back (((hugs)))
Al anon, working the steps and talking with my sponsor helped me leave my husband. My kids are fine living with me. It is better, in my opinion, for kids to have divorced parents than to have parents who live together and fight all the time and living with an A father who sets a bad example. Safety became an issue for me too. Kids can still love their father without living with him. I took one step at a time and moved out. I started by getting a storage unit.
My husband and I were coworkers too, but I still left him. People don't need to know your private business. Ignore them.
-- Edited by Newlife girl on Saturday 24th of January 2015 11:41:12 PM
I work with him and I have a little girl who loves him very much. How do u do it without everything being affected so badly?
You don't think the little girl smells something wrong w/this relationship???? does he verbally abuse you in front of her??? is mom being unhappy in a relationship good for this child??? and like Kenny said, how do you break up w/a man who is NOT a dry drunk ??? and that that should not make a difference.....a bad relationship is a bad relationship....however, I sense he is not in AA??? if not, it is very very unwise to stay w/him b/c if he is not in AA working a solid program, hes gonna relapse and what will the effects be on that???
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