The material presented
here is not Al-Anon Conference Approved Literature. It is a method
to exchange
information, ideas, feelings, problems and solutions on a personal
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The alanon welcome pack is the best thing ive ever read. The leaflet on detachment was the best tool ive ever learned and used. It gave me a lot. When i learned to detach with love i got freedom. I learned,
i didnt need to suffer because of the actions or reactions of other people.
Not to allow myself to be used or abused in the interest of anothers recovery.
Not to do for others what they should do for themselves.
Theres much more i learned from one small leaflet, simple and logical yet powerful. Sometimes, i put these tools down and im quite quickly rewarded with that old stinking thinking. Back to basics for me.
Thanks, Elcee. I don't think I have one favorite tool as there is so much good stuff that Al-Anon offers to us at meetings and at their website.
I do have a favorite Step, however, out of all the others and that is the 11th Step. I can use it in any circumstance, at any time, when I'm experiencing confusion or uncertainty or their opposites. I love that Step.
When I practice that Step, it helps me remember that I don't have to have all the answers, figure things out, fix things. I just have to remember that there is a Higher Power who knows me and can guide me in ways that are most loving for me and/or for others. Through prayer(saying what is on my mind and heart) and meditation(listening for that still small voice), I can relax and wait for the guidance I know will come and the power(energy) to do what is mine to do. If nothing comes as a result of my listening other than my experiencing a sense of well-being and peace, sometimes that is my HP's will for me and there is nothing more for me to do but remain centered, peaceful and still.
I love the 11th step, too, as it is through prayer and meditation that I come closer to God and then have KNOWINGS that I can experience about me and my world. It is humbling and freeing....I love your insights elcee
Thanks for the thread LC. My favorite is the "The Just for Today Bookmark". I still carry it around after all these years.
It is a powerful reminder how I can live in a constructive manner One Day at a Time. I also like the Detachment pamphlet.
As for the 11th Step I love the fact that when I pray for HP's will in this Step, I also pray for the power to carry it out. That was always one of my fears-- That HP would give me a difficult task and I would not be able to accomplish it. The 11th Step assures me that with His will comes the Power. Great, I can do that!!!
-- Edited by hotrod on Wednesday 21st of January 2015 05:50:16 PM
Its great that one too, i love the one about i will not criticise, i will be courteous etc. Its a big one but it helps me with my own will. Thanks hotrod.
My favorite is the Serenity Prayer - using it to help me determine what are things I cannot change and what I can do something about and the peace that comes with knowing something isn't mine to fix.
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I am strong in the broken places. ~ Unknown
All changes, even the most longed for, have their melancholy; for what we leave behind us is a part of ourselves; we must die to one life before we can enter another! ~ Anatole France
Hey el-cee, my Al-Anon group gave me that packet on my first visit. I still have that leaflet on detachment, and I still read it often. I'm moving backwards for the time being and working steps 1-3 again. Just feeling like I need to shore up my foundation. My favorite tool at the moment is the slogan, "Let go and let God."
It works if you work it.
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i didnt need to suffer because of the actions or reactions of other people.
Not to allow myself to be used or abused in the interest of anothers recovery.
Not to do for others what they should do for themselves.
I really like these points.....all three of them i had to work on and work hard b/c of my codependency , but i am emotionally sober one day at a time.....
nice post, el-cee.....
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