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C2C January 19 speaks about acceptance of ourselves. It points out that we are all imperfect humans and that we are all still children of God who are committed to growing spiritually and changing.
Since we are committed to seeing our limitations and flaws, this page urges us to discard our negative tools of judging, or condemning ourselves or others as these tools do not enhance our lives.
We can begin to let go of these attitudes when we accept the fact that seeing her negative behavior and how it hurts us is the steps we can take to grow. Working the program ,we will recognize that we are on a spiritual path and every tool we use, meeting we attend, prayer we say we are one step closer to wholeness and serenity.
Remembering that only a Higher Power can make us whole,it is important each day to acknowledge our efforts. Al-Anon is a gentle program. We must remember to be gentle with ourselves and trust that healing will come.
The quote is from:"In all our Affairs: "Today I will accept myself for what I am because I know that whatever happens I have a Higher Power and a group of people who love me anyway."
I love this page as it reinforces the basic philosophy of alanon. There is a Higher Power, who will restore us to balance and that our efforts are required in the process. . The main effort is for us to let go of our negative destructive tools of judgment , blaming , focusing on others and instead use prayer gentleness and acceptance as a key to rebuilding our lives and self-esteem.
When I don't discard my negative tools, I don't have peace. Peace is what I strive for....since it has been elusive lately, I know i am reaching for negative tools. Surrender, prayer and meditation have been increased.....
What a wonderful share! I needed this today and for this coming weekend as I may or may not choose to walk through an experience that I would rather not.
Thank you for sharing today's reading with us, Betty, and for your share. Gentleness with myself was something I had trouble with at one time. I was forever pushing, pushing, pushing to be and to do what I couldn't be and what I couldn't do comfortably or with ease. It took a spiritual experience for me to see that I was taking on too much responsibility in my life and that it wasn't my HP's will for me to always be grinding away at doing what wasn't always mine to do. I notice a big change in me from when I first entered the Al-Anon rooms and would have made the coffee, put everything out, cleaned it all up, taken out the trash, put away all the chairs and made sure the lights were off before I left the building - making it comfortable for everyone else in my group to talk and go for coffee while I martyred myself in the rooms. Today, I attend a meeting where I do my part and leave the rest. If things don't get cleaned up and put away with the help of 20 to 30 more others, they don't. I've done my part. That's all that is required. I am then free to talk with others after the meeting, go for coffee, or just go do something I want to do. Even though I see what needs to get done, doesn't mean it is my sole responsibility to do it. Much gentler way to attend meetings for me. Martyring myself is not a virtue.
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Dear G2Be I can so identify with being the Do-Bee in the room. My sponsor told me that I was a Human Being not a Human Doing!!!. That woke me up:0
Paula I hear you and do understand. Glad I pray that you are are gentle with yourself on that issue Please keep us informed.
This one could be for me today hotrod. Accepting we are all flawed human beings and behave as such at times. Letting go of unrealistic expectations of people and things. Knowing that everything is as it should be and i can love it and accept it as it is. The tools of judging and blaming have been my tools here lately. I have been blaming and judging and not accepting. i need to accept myself for those flaws too, i can ask my higher power to restore me to serenity. Back to step 1.x
LC your honesty is refreshing. We are all works in progress as the reading points out and we aim for progress not perfection There was a time I could not see my part now I can.
That is huge growth .:)
