The material presented
here is not Al-Anon Conference Approved Literature. It is a method
to exchange
information, ideas, feelings, problems and solutions on a personal
level.
The ODA T January 17 speaks about the destructive tools that we, who live with the disease develop over the course of time while living in the insanity. Here is an example of the weapons that most of us use: indignation irresponsible accusations, nagging, tears, hysteria and self-righteousness as well as many more. It points out that until the love and respect within us dwells in our home and every day life we will not feel recovery.
The reminder is to try to clear out all the tools of destruction that we have developed as they cannot improve our situation. I must make myself learn to use new set of tools like tolerance, kindness patients courtesy and a firm determination to do what is necessary to improve my life.
The quote is God, who is all good and all wisdom provides me with the tools that are useful in overcoming my difficulties. May I be willing to use them.
Alanon Steps, slogans, meetings sharing and sponsor are the answer
I know I used different negative tools as well they were denial of reality and pretending all was well. This killed my soul and I lost myself in the process. The emptiness and overwhelming grief that I felt within were unimaginable. The same tools worked for me.
The Courage to Change for January 16 speaks about the 12th step;"Having had a spiritual awakening as a result of these steps." This is quite a promise!!!. I know when I first read the steps and saw this promise I thought, I may need a spiritual awakening, I have tried everything I know so maybe a spiritual awakening is just what I need in order to be able to live life on life's term.
As the reading points out this is not why we come to Al-Anon, Many of us reach out to Al-Anon in order to find the solution to the alcoholism in a relative or friend. I know I did. Working the steps is not easy. It is a difficult process and I believed that if I did it a day at a time in the company of Al-Anon members and the help of my sponsor, I would be able to achieve the goal of the 12th step.
I can identify so completely with the quote from "As we understood :" the first time I ever heard the 12 steps read at a meeting, I became very still. I felt I was not breathing I was just listening with my whole being I knew deep within me that I was home."
(((Betty))) this is a GREAT post for today The reminder is to try to clear out all the tools of destruction that we have developed as they cannot improve our situation. I must make myself learn to use new set of tools like tolerance, kindness patients courtesy and a firm determination to do what is necessary to improve my life.
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this is what i am working on , my sorta new years resolution....BIG step 7 work....now that i have exposed through step 4, my "tools of destruction" its time and i am willing to do the step 7 on them and employ the new, healthier behaviours i learned in al-anon......and i agree!!!! THANK U AL-ANON!!!!
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Live and let live and do it with peace and goodwill to all!!!!
