practice,practice,practice - Al-Anon Family Group

mjferg · Senior Member

practice,practice,practice

grateful2be · ~*Service Worker*~

One of those say what you mean, mean what you say, and not say it mean kinds of things, Mary? Not to change the other, but to be true to yourself? If so, I understand and I hear you. It isn't easy and it is possible. Glad to see you made it after traveling on slippery roads yesterday.

PP · ~*Service Worker*~

It helps me to simply state "this does not work for me".

Jerry F · ~*Service Worker*~

I use to do a practice that at times seemed sooooo insane because I was roll playing real time. I use to "switch shoes" during confrontations with a mind set question running back and forth. "how do I want this to come out"?? I would ask myself "How would I feel and maybe react or respond if I heard what it is that I'm compulsed to say and what would I hope to gain by saying it that way"? I had great sponsorship who guided me thru this process which caused me to slow way down in thoughts and speech before speaking. It is an honest form of manipulation...I've been caught at it a time or too with verifications that it was honest and respectful. Practice, practice, practice is a slogan of mine...I am always practicing the program and it works when I work it that way. Great post. ((((hugs)))) smile

Breakingfree · ~*Service Worker*~

I used to work myself up and come off as a B, myself, but then al-anon taught me not to let things build up and to say what I need to say with; say what you mean, mean what you say, but don't say it mean. I hope you are able to wear your tool belt in this exchange. Sending you love and support!

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