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Debilyn


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Serenity is something we have to work to get to, and work even more to keep and share.

When things are feeling rough, what has helped me is to stop, think about it all without emotions. What is really going on? Is it appropriate, acceptable, will it hurt someone else? Am I concentrating on my stuff or going where I do not belong?

For me here, I think of people as individuals. But I also consider us a big family.

When a mistake happens, it is my service, and by guidelines taught to me via the site owner, to have to evaluate and do my best to reach someone who has veered off from taking their own inventory, and getting into others.

It has happened to me also. I am healing too and have went past boundaries when I was stuck in high emotions. Sometimes we all need a time out, to look at ourselves.

In serenity for me, it's not taking things personal. It is accepting what another is working at telling me, and know there is no right or wrong, it's more perception.

Not just here but in all my life situations. This is what I mean when I never argue.

I know if I did not have serenity, I could not be here involved with so many people, so many obstacles. I had to learn to look to the rule or the boundary and follow that.

That was how my classes were too. The kids made the rules with me and wrote the consequences if those rules were broken. So when they made a mistake they knew they had made the choice for the consequence. nothing personal at all. nothing to argue about.

Anarchy does not work. So we have teachers, police,spiritual guides,  presidents, parents etc. who remind us of the rules and support the consequences.

anyway I hope this makes sense. I thought about it a lot. For me serenity ends up being a lot of humbleness on my part. And it also is following the main boundaries of Love.

 



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Deb

we are all works in progress  good  bad  ugly...if we were not works in progress we would not be here, experiencing, learning, etc.....its when we close our hearts/minds to learning/reflecting we get into trouble territory.....

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Debilyn


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Boy is that ever true!! See what great insights you have! (c:



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Good topic, Debilyn...

                                 for me serenity is being in the here and now... being able to cope

                                         and being able to enjoy, every so often... aww.



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restraint of pen and tongue.

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Im needing a bit of serenity too debilyn, its a good topic. Its hard to obtain sometimes and i forget how valuable it is. Ive been thinking about serenity too andits meaning more and more to me lately. Im the one that throws away my serenity for different reasons, mainly negative ones.

Ive not been picking up my tools lately, forgetting the slogans, how important is it? Sounds easy but the slogan i need to use first is think and ask myself is this worth my serenity? If i dont think first then i can rush in and make it important when its not or not enough to get all my nerves going and risking my peace.

The odaat and c2c have been gathering dust, literally since the holidays. Another tool ive put down. Im going to pick them up, back to my steps, give myself a shake. Sometimes serenity has to be given away to be appreciated all over again.x

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I am practicing,I am learning to step back from situations and take my time before reacting.I am really starting to enjoy managing my emotions better and not getting my feathers ruffled,I can be quite feisty at times, it is probably a defense mechanism.I am finding when I take my time and look at a situation calmly,I do much better.



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To upset to respond to parts of this post. Deleting my own posts. Sorry.



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For me serenity is priceless and I try never to abandon myself to my old "REACT" mode. I do fail and just last week lost it at a nurse in the hospital where my brother is still housed.

We are all works in progress and handling issues like we do at a business meeting works for me. Each person is free to state their opinion in this fellowship of equals as long as we remember the First Traditon that" Unity "of the group is the most improtant.
If I ineed to speak "my truth" to a person off line is probably the best way to handle it.



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