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Umm .. yah .. so went into court to see what I can do and actually there is a lot .. LOL .. won't get into that at this point. After rereading the text to the DV person we were both crying laughing .. and I mean I am going I know this isn't funny however now that I'm reading this out loud the sheer bizarreness of it all is just mind blowing.
My face hurts from non stop .. laughing and part of this is how I deal with intense amounts of stress.
So the poor woman calls me back and she's like I don't even know how to tell you this .. however you are so not divorced. WTF!? My eyeballs are about out of my head. How can I not be divorced?
Needless to say I'm calling my atty going WTH is going on and she totally called me back and we have a plan of action .. I don't think that my XAH can apply for a marriage license and in all fairness I have done what I am suppose to do. Honestly there has been no hurry to get this signed after all and my X being my X waited until Friday to get his license and this is what his meltdown was about and she rolled because she said OMGOSH he's like dealing with an over grown toddler these tantrums are unreal!
I'm not going to lie the idea of him sweating it out is appealing .. LMAO .. however not nice .. I will admit that .. it is just so flipping funny at the moment I don't know where to go with it all.
Seriously .. when will I get rid of this man-child?!
Someone asked me if I wanted to get married again .. and I said OMGOSH absolutely NOT! Maybe way way way down the road .. however not today and I'm ok with that .. LOL!
So the saga continues and this is going to be a tell all book about what not to do when divorcing an Alcoholic!!
I am going to look into suspending visitation until he gets some help.
Hugs all S :)
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Faith minus vulnerability and mystery equals extremism. If you've got all the answers, then don't call what you do "faith". - Brene Brown
"Whatever truth you own doesn't own you" - Gary John Bishop
OK, I seriously don't understand how it is that you are still married??? What is wrong with our court system that this couldn't have been done quicker? I mean, I understand that he wasn't agreeable or easy to work with, etc but it seems like you just can't seem to get rid of this guy.....I am frustrated for you at this point, LOL. So glad you can laugh at it, too.
Hugs to you!
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OMGOSH .. I should post the text at this point it is beyond laughable .. I mean I'm reading it to the DV gal and seriously I was on the roll big time just because I am so disgusted with the whole situation. I kept saying I know it's not funny .. and then lit off into another story saying you don't understand this is only the tip of the iceberg .. she was horrified .. and then the laughter would start again .. and then the stories about my atty's and his atty and what has gone on there .. I mean seriously beyond bizzaro .. OHHHH .. the business about the kids and visitation?? SHELVED .. his atty never mentioned it and my atty laughed and said yup you called that one. He was trying to threaten me with contempt and I mean I laughed at him over that one.
I told the DV gal God has a horrible sense of humor and I really hope He never quits his day job .. I can NOT get divorced from this man .. do you have any idea how easy it was to get married and this man will NOT go away!!!? So when taking those vows be sure you mean FOREVER or at min of 4 years because we are going into the new year STILL MARRIED! I wish we could get divorced on his wedding.
Even my atty admitted that she had never heard of a decree being signed after a new marriage .. LOL!!
His behavior towards the kids as possessions was just tremendously awful. I mean NOT ONE word about him loving his children, missing his children .. it was completely focused on MONEY that was the bottom line and what he would pay, wouldn't pay and so on. How he was getting another atty (side note he can't pay the one he has according to his atty) because he was being fair with maintenance after all. I mean it just goes on and on child support baby .. you will pay because it will be a uniform order of support so good luck with that one.
Now the second text he tried to recover or the STBW did .. OMGOSH that text was creepier than the first one.
Of course I love my children. Support was mailed yesterday. blah blah blah gag gag gag .. whatever .. not my issue. Cat was already out of the bag and it was hysterical .. wait because it will get better.
Anyway, I'm just watching with my popcorn out going where is the main event!
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Faith minus vulnerability and mystery equals extremism. If you've got all the answers, then don't call what you do "faith". - Brene Brown
"Whatever truth you own doesn't own you" - Gary John Bishop
I cant wait to read your book on how to deal with divorcing an A. lol. i am headed down that road!!! not fun. i have to laugh too about the crazy stuff my AH says and does.
This is almost too crazy to believe! WTH???? How can this have happened. Good for you for keeping your sense of humor (even if it is a stress reliever- better to laugh than to cry).
Omgosh I'm laughing again .. Part of the crazy text was "I have no problem moving to south America to disappear with my dad! If you don't sign the divorce decree." .. Um all I can think now is yes please .. GO! This was of course said after he's getting married this weekend. And now I'm thinkng ok add bigamy to your list of charges. Plus I hope the new wife has a job lined up. I'm going to post the text at some point only because it's too good not to. If you all even understood me being me how hard it is not to respond and engage him. Oh the fun I could have .. Lol.
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Faith minus vulnerability and mystery equals extremism. If you've got all the answers, then don't call what you do "faith". - Brene Brown
"Whatever truth you own doesn't own you" - Gary John Bishop
Oh no .. Lol .. There may be a 30 day waiting period for them to get married legally lol. So honestly I get this signed today or tomorrow it's not going to matter. The only part I'm not looking forward to is the punishment. He can't take any kind of personal responsibility. I'm starting to understand that his atty is completely unaware lol.
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Faith minus vulnerability and mystery equals extremism. If you've got all the answers, then don't call what you do "faith". - Brene Brown
"Whatever truth you own doesn't own you" - Gary John Bishop
