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I need to do something tomorrow that will be very very hard, yet I must. My mom promised us that she would not let my father drive anymore, due to the dementia. He drove to my brothers today and was planning on driving them home. I yelled at my mom that he could not drive; she insisted he was alright to drive, then my brother intervened until my mom agreed to drive. I will call his neurologist tomorrow (as I am their medical POA) who told them a year and a half ago if she heard he was driving she would contact the state and have his license revoked. I was so hoping it would not have to come to this. I feel sad and angry....taking this action sucks. He has been a tough man to have as a father....
Ahhhhh, Paula. Tough stuff here. I can certainly relate to your not wanting to do this. I am so glad your brother is backing you up on it. Many prayers for the entire family as your HP and theirs care for everyone in this situation. My POA brother wouldn't take the keys from my Dad. Dad came up missing several times because he became disoriented on the road. My brothers thought that if they wired my Dad's car with a GPS tracking system, they could track him. Dad pulled out the wires. He was missing for two days in the hard winter month of February. He was discovered by State Police parked on the wrong side of a major highway "going over his receipts." It was a wonder he didn't kill somebody or die in his car. That was the end of my brother allowing Dad to drive. Following an extended stay in the hospital because of multiple issues, he was then put in Assisted Living without his car. He was angry about it and would bring up the fact my brother messed up his driving for him. You're doing the best you can do with a man who won't surrender his keys and hopefully your Mother will have the strength to tell him no when or if he tries to drive without the license. It takes courage to do what you know you have to do although I am hoping he will decide to do this himself overnight and you won't have to follow through. This is certainly such a difficult time of life for our parents and for those of us who love them. (((P)))
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If I had a world of my own, everything would be nonsense. Nothing would be what it is, because everything would be what it isn't. And contrary wise, what is, it wouldn't be. And what it wouldn't be, it would. You see? (Lewis Caroll)
That is a difficult thing to do Paula, on many levels, but for what its worth to my mind it seems so right, very loving and a little bit brave as well. Sending ((((((hugs)))))))
