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I work a part time job. When got home last night I could tell something was up. I did not say anything to him, because really what is the point. I found Vodka today and I was not even looking for it. I felt sick to my stomach. I know we have all felt this and even after all of these years it is still there. I love all of the excuses they come up. I really think there must be a book out there that they all read because all of them have the same excuses. Of course my husband does not think he is an alcoholic or has an alcohol problem. It is just a pint of Vodka so what is my problem? I was proud of myself for not yelling, etc. I just calmly said I need to be alone. I have been detaching the past few weeks and it has really helped. I guess I need to step it up a notch because until he admits there is a problem and gets help nothing with change with him. I love what Jerry F. said once to me - he is going to drink regardless and what are you going to do? I need to take care of ME only and that is it. Thanks for letting me vent and I hope everybody had a nice Christmas. Thanks, Jen
I know that sick to my stomach feeling. I have to admit, I don't love all of the excuses...the ones I hear from others and the ones I hear from me for not taking actions I know I need to take. What actions are you taking and what ones are you wanting to take? How will you care for yourself? Your gut is telling you something. Take good care of YOUR precious life, it is the only one you have.
Good job Jen, I've been there, finding bottles around Christmas. It's a stressful time of year, giving lots of good excuses for As to drink. And giving you lots of reasons to be frustrated. I'm glad you were able to use your tools and be able to ask yourself Jerry's question.
