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I am facing this now with an adopted sister now in hospice care due to Alzheimer's....Her daughter, my niece, texted me w/this sad update today...Its hard to accept that my big sis and mentor is now in this sad condition....However, I am so glad I always treated her with love , respect and i kept up with her and EVERY convo i ever had w/her, I would end w/telling her how much I love her and appreciate her
i always and i do this w/other adopted sister (both are adopted--they rescued me from my bio family and the abuse when i was 12---Our mom and dad took me into their home and into our hearts....Also, our mom and dad tried for years to adopt me--they had visitations a lot w/me b/c dad and mom threatened to take monssters to court and report what they knew)
anyway, as with older adopted sister, I ALWAYS end conversation w/ "I love you" always do...now as she slips into Alzheimer's deeper and deeper I will be able to remember that i always treated her w/honor....She and other big sis were my idols...They taught me everything about how to be a nice young lady, etc.......I will miss "G" when her time comes, but I have my wonderful memories.....
I got a hold of her today at her nursing home...She was delighted to hear from me...We joked and laughed..She told me she was "working there to earn some extra money" I just went along with it, for the most part, she sounded like her old self, I told her I missed her and loved her and she said the same to me....We had a nice talk...I will call every few days to savor what time I have left with her....Other sis will call her later...
I give thanks that my other sister is still in very good health
I guess i am staring at a BIG step one over this....This is hard!!!
-- Edited by neshema2 on Thursday 11th of December 2014 05:52:33 PM
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It is indeed hard to walk with a sibling on this most difficult of all roads. I am proud of the manner in which you have handled your relationship with her and will make sure that I tell my sister that I love her in the future . Prayers for the family Rosie.
Yes, it is difficult to accept the loss of your loved one as they once were to who they have become and will become. What I love in this share is that you didn't argue with her thinking she was earning some extra money and talked with her like she was still there - which she is and just differently. Love this share. Thanks, Neshema.
It is indeed hard to walk with a sibling on this most difficult of all roads. I am proud of the manner in which you have handled your relationship with her and will make sure that I tell my sister that I love her in the future . Prayers for the family Rosie.
Thanks, Betty, yea, this is a tough one....she was my idol, when i was a child...she and "P", the oldest one.....i worshipped those beautiful ladies...they were several years older than i was and yet..when they had dates, they would take me along and the BF's were fine with it...now how many older sibs do THAT for a younger, pain in the neck, little sibling???? oh yea, in school, i dressed to the nines b/c they both worked at a nice, very nice, clothing store and got BIG empee discounts.....to this day i am a clothes horse, thanks to my diva sisters, lol......some old habits don't go away, haha
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Yes, it is difficult to accept the loss of your loved one as they once were to who they have become and will become. What I love in this share is that you didn't argue with her thinking she was earning some extra money and talked with her like she was still there - which she is and just differently. Love this share. Thanks, Neshema.
Hey Grateful, I had to stifle a giggle when she told me "oh yea, u caught me on my break----I am staying here for a while so i can earn some extra money" and i said "oh, glad i caught you on break...must be nice working in a swanky looking place like that one" and she agreed with me, lol...oh yea, "G" can come up with some great stuff.....We had a good time reminiscing about the good ole days and ya know??? as far as the past goes, she has a steal trap memory...its just the present....
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I am sorry N. Your conversation was sweet and I liked hearing the stories of the younger you in relationship to the "elders". Yes, it is hard to see them slipping away. Blessings for all of you, take good care.
I am sorry N. Your conversation was sweet and I liked hearing the stories of the younger you in relationship to the "elders". Yes, it is hard to see them slipping away. Blessings for all of you, take good care.
Hey P.....the oldest one still calls me "baby girl" even to this day....I love it!!! Those girls were my queens....still are....always will be.......this loss is gonna be baaaad!!!!! thank god for you guys and program....gonna need u all xo
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Same experience I had with my Dad. His present was skewed at times although not always, but his long-term memory was very, very good - even if it was repeated often. I wouldn't have traded those final years with him for anything. It sounds as if both of us are/were blessed in that our loved ones are not violent as some can become with this disease.
-- Edited by grateful2be on Thursday 11th of December 2014 06:43:35 PM
Same experience I had with my Dad. His present was skewed at times although not always, but his long-term memory was very, very good - even if it was repeated often. I wouldn't have traded those final years with him for anything. It sounds as if both of us are/were blessed in that our loved ones are not violent as some can become with this disease.
-- Edited by grateful2be on Thursday 11th of December 2014 06:43:35 PM
omg, G, you are so right...i've heard stories of some of them being really crazier than an outhouse RAT!!! batty as hell!!! and violent as you mention.......my aunt was sorta negative w/some folks but never me......funny, i heard she was "difficult" and kinda "nasty" but I never saw it w/me.....I don't see "G" ever being that way......yea, we were blessed b/c this disease really messes up the thinking processes....scary!!!!! I am glad your final years w/your dad were good ones......i'm gonna stick by "G" as much as I can......wish i wasn't so far away
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I so understand that wanting to be closer and not being able to do so. I'm going to pray that your HP make it possible for you to visit your sister in person.
I so understand that wanting to be closer and not being able to do so. I'm going to pray that your HP make it possible for you to visit your sister in person.
(((((((((((G))))))))))) thanks, my good friend......yea, feeling sad about her......like i am "ok" then i think about her losing that sharp mind of hers...the one who trained me so well how to "deal" and get through stuff...she and "P" like i said...They were my heroines.....also there are two girls i grew up with with whom i am close......we call each other sisters as well......remember i wrote about my one who lost her big sister , Janet?? I did a post on here about it....poor Janet had all kinds of health issues and she passed?? well "S" is having a real hard time , i mean she is doing as well as one can, but yea, its rough to lose an older, protective sibling..........she said the nicest thing to me the other day when i got my injection in my back when it was so bad, I was unable to even talk, the pain was so bad..."S" told me that losing Janet was real bad and she empathized w/me about "G" and she said she was grateful that she had me, as we go back a looong time and are like family.........I thought that was really sweet of her......
btw, back is progressing....AND i can take aspirin, so that is a plus....it knocks out inflamation, where tylenol is useless.....never could use it before, but i can now.....
there is a GW 1/2 off sale on the 20th......i want to get a nice dress coat to wear if i go someplace special....a nice down to my calves leather one would be nice...oh i have some cute ones, but i want ONE good , dress one.........and of course the books will get thoroughly scanned, LOL......
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