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I am feeling much better today!What a journey this has been.I feel like Bilbo Baggins leaving the comfort of the Shire going to slay the dragon!I am a hopeless romantic,by the way and I love whimsy!I realize as I face each demon from my past,painful as it is,I heal and grow.I realize I can't change the past,but I don't have to be bound by it either!.I am seeing a difference in myself, as a neighbor asked me out,I said I wasn't dating right now,but I just had a feeling he wasn't a gentlemen.I mentioned it to my daughter and she said,good choice mom he isn't a gentlemen,she had observed some not so great behavior,which wasn't surprising,I just sensed it.Right now I am not in any hurry to date,it is too soon.I think I will let God handle that one!
I am feeling much better today!What a journey this has been.I feel like Bilbo Baggins leaving the comfort of the Shire going to slay the dragon!I am a hopeless romantic,by the way and I love whimsy!I realize as I face each demon from my past,painful as it is,I heal and grow.I realize I can't change the past,but I don't have to be bound by it either!.I am seeing a difference in myself, as a neighbor asked me out,I said I wasn't dating right now,but I just had a feeling he wasn't a gentlemen.I mentioned it to my daughter and she said,good choice mom he isn't a gentlemen,she had observed some not so great behavior,which wasn't surprising,I just sensed it.Right now I am not in any hurry to date,it is too soon.I think I will let God handle that one!
WOW!!! good observation and i agree...I think , and alanons say this too, no op sex friendships until you've been in recovery for like 6-12 months, and that is steady, hard recovery work, otherwise, we fall into same patterns b/c we are not yet "re-trained" to be healthy, yet.....and no, i can't change mypast either...and after doing a lot of anger letting, and grieving, i can now NOT let it dominate my present....i can look in the rearview mirror w/out staring at it....my past , i will never forget, but for me, i chose to move on....to grab/embrace the present and it looks like you have decided that too.....good on you.......glad u refused the date....your "feeling" that he wasn't a gentlemen, was your higher power saying 'uh uh...not healthy for you...I want better....so lets wait" good on you seeing that and listening....sounds to me like you are gonna prosper in program....being honest, open and willing will help you every time...........i like the last sentence...letting you HP guide you..yea, we have to do the footwork, work our program, watch, listen, pay attention, etc., then when we've dont all we can, its time to let your greater power take it from there.....GOOD JOB!!!!!! In support
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Live and let live and do it with peace and goodwill to all!!!!
It is nice to be reminded that people see things to like about us, even if they aren't right for us! I'm glad for you, and glad you are feeling better today
-- Edited by missmeliss on Thursday 20th of November 2014 12:45:13 PM
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If I had a world of my own, everything would be nonsense. Nothing would be what it is, because everything would be what it isn't. And contrary wise, what is, it wouldn't be. And what it wouldn't be, it would. You see? (Lewis Caroll)
Absolutely,I just had another brainstorm,my ex has been calling me,I haven't answered, but he leaves messages,i love you, i miss you,blah,blah,blah.He has also left a voice message.It was making me anxious so I changed my phone number,it was so simple!I feel much better now!
((((MJ)))) just some experience from early recovery. I acted on the suggestion of dating myself especially during the early "get to know me" stages...know what? I liked it and there was no interference from others I use to let get in the way. I got back to knowing the "real" Jerry F and have a better relationship with him today than ever. Keep putting new batteries in that light and push the dark back. In support ((((hugs))))
Great post, I feel the same way, no more sick thinkers. No way, especially whe you feel better about yourself and youve got quality stuff to offer. Im enjoying being on my own with me.
