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I put this on my first Geez thread and decided that it might be better to start a new thread.
As of yesterday's news, the stolen snowplow story got changed to stolen snowplow blades, hydraulic parts and a trailer which seems so much more feasible to me than entire snowplows. Even so, according to the newscasters, those blades weigh 750 pounds or more. Still incredible to me that anybody could steal them.
Regardless, I liken the first report to what can often happen in our lives. We hear something. We act on what we hear. Later, new information comes to light and new ways to process and act on the new facts becomes apparent to us. Learning to wait when I first hear something to see if more will be revealed seems to be a better choice to make at times. I think that is true when listening to myself or others, too, sometimes - especially when I'm not sure what to say? To wait until the more is revealed - either inside or outside me - and then act or respond?
I find I do wait more in relationship to my AS. I notice that there seems to be a wave that his thoughts ride. The most loving thing I can do sometimes is simply to wait for the more that will be revealed in silence and in faith that if there are words for me to speak or actions to take, I will know them and express them when the timing is right for me and for him. And sometimes, my job is simply to witness the rising and the falling of his thoughts/or mine without doing anything at all.
-- Edited by grateful2be on Wednesday 12th of November 2014 11:18:12 AM
LOL...is that kinda sorta a "Gottcha"? I try often to just wait until more news comes in and lately that has worked for me well. I can and won't try to put my own spin on it because I know that it comes from my own ego and will so I will practice "Listening" and when I do "God Speaks" and also my former sponsors questioning my thoughts and opinions on many things..."Could you be wrong"? The news report always changes...lol (((((hugs)))))
Jumping at information does have its serendipitous effects, we did all get some amusement out of it yesterday. I also got to throw a mild zinger at Michigan, which I never turn down.
And yet - even before the more was revealed about what was actually stolen - didn't we have fun with what could have happened with those huge trucks.
And Kenny, since you and I both know where you live from experience, I suggest you come to Michigan and hang out with us Michiganders where some will probably say you have an accent as if us Indiana people come from a foreign land. Then you can get an up close and personal experience of being a Hoosier during a Michigan winter where only the big games and parties are centered around Michigan State, U of M or the Lions where I live. I'm afraid to hang a Notre Dame flag outside my house or the Indianapolis Colts or even the Chicago Bears. It could get ugly. (You and your wife can have my bed. Your son will enjoy having the lower level to himself. Unfortunately, the pups can't come. My girls would go crazy and it would not be a happy place for the rest of us. I have enough mirrors for all the people the house though even if there is no room in the inn for the pups.)
-- Edited by grateful2be on Wednesday 12th of November 2014 01:52:30 PM
-- Edited by grateful2be on Wednesday 12th of November 2014 02:15:13 PM
Gosh... I can remember all the times I didn't wait and watch if more was to be revealed. I would be right there on top of it...and in most cases I couldn't do a dang thing about it.
I also do it all the time before reading the END OF THE STORY...just to find out I got it all wrong.
(((( hugs ))) I liked the first story anyways......because of the joking that came out of it.
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You are very wise! I am terribly messed up when it comes to waiting to react...I'm trying so hard to be better, but one little thing can send me ina tizzy and I spiral out of control. I need to find something that will distract me when I am in the "waiting" time - instead I obsess and make myself sick...UGH! Someday serenity will be mine :(
Grateful wrote.....Learning to wait when I first hear something to see if more will be revealed seems to be a better choice to make at times. I think that is true when listening to myself or others, too, sometimes - especially when I'm not sure what to say? To wait until the more is revealed - either inside or outside me - and then act or respond?
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YEP....I have done that...hear that the sky has fallen in on someone's house and it turns out it was just a big bird......i do it , react rather than wait and respond when i know i got more info...I see SOME improvement, but depending on my nerves/ptsd, i can react 1st news "go round" then when i hear updates, i go "oh man!!! took the bait again" not to worry, i see it on this "justice" site that i belong to on facebook...a news story will come out and immediatly the ladies are sharing the link and twittering like crazy, then you see the UP date and it can be quite different...LOL......still 750# blades, WOW...someone selling some metal....i see folks looking for aluminum, iron, metals in general to sell........wonder where they will tell the "buyer" they got those.........
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