Power over Alcohol - Al-Anon Family Group

cloudyskies · ~*Service Worker*~

Power over Alcohol

hotrod · ~*Service Worker*~

Great share Linda I am so impressed by your recovery Thank you for your positive energy and thoughts.

cloudyskies · ~*Service Worker*~

Thanks Betty. I'm a work in progress and this will be for the rest of my life. Knowing this makes me feel powerful because now I no longer am looking for perfectionism. What a relief. When I think of all the sick people who are suffering because of alcohol, I am so saddened.

It works if you work it. smile

Fairlee · Senior Member

Awesome post. I am finally realizing that I can't blame everything on my AH/alcohol - I choose what I put up with and that is my problem alone. It is so inspiring how you are taking your situation and using that experience to help others. Thank you for sharing.

grateful2be · ~*Service Worker*~

Love the concepts and ideas in your share. Powerful.

cloudyskies · ~*Service Worker*~

Thanks Fairlee and Grateful. I'm just really feeling the need to pay it forward lately.

I work two days a week with high school students in an alternative setting. We were doing some self reflection writing and the topic was "what are some things you can do in less than fifteen minutes to change your mood?" Most of the kids said listen to music, call a friend, do some sort of physical activity, but one boy said "drink." You know this immediately got my attention. I talked to this kid about the dangers of becoming an alcoholic and how terrible this disease was.

His reply was "Don't worry, Mrs. __________, I can handle my drinking. (typical alcoholic answer!)

This kid is 17, so you know his chances of becoming an alcoholic are high.

-- Edited by cloudyskies on Tuesday 11th of November 2014 09:51:42 PM

grateful2be · ~*Service Worker*~

Might already be there? It's a crime to drink as a minor. I wonder where he's getting the stuff? What these kids don't know is if they get an MIP, it goes on their car insurance record and be there as a red flag to employers, insurers and others like volunteer agencies who might be interested parties in their lives and its there for at least three years. They often do get caught with liquor in their possession. Sad when they make their young adult years harder then they need to do by drinking as a rite of passage or as a compulsion.

milkwood · ~*Service Worker*~

I love your powerful message CS

PP · ~*Service Worker*~

You and your HP are a powerful team!

Debilyn · ~*Service Worker*~

30 day thing is not going to work. NO way can you know if he is drinking or not. Do you follow him to bathroom? Get up when he gets up at night?

Most A's don't have the motivation to go to court. Most courts no matter what is shown care if they have 7 duils accidents or whatever, they grant visitation.

My experience is you enjoy your life and give your baby the best you can. If she does not want to see him, trust her intuition. Allow HP to take care of thingss. ONE day at a time.

Kids and A's are the worst thing to have to deal with along with a child who is an A.

I would do anything to protect my kids.

even if he had a breathalizer he could have someone else blow in it. Just is not a doable way to do anything, this 30 day thing I mean. Is a waster of energy

Lyne · ~*Service Worker*~

I could have written the first paragraph of your post except for one slight change. I will no longer try to influence my A, but I would say I have lost much if not all, of the respect I once had. Their choices are theirs and not mine. But I have little respect for someone dedicated to ruining their health, life, and marriage. I am making peace with myself and becoming a happy person most of the time. I am grateful to alanon and will continue to work hard. As you said, I can change, I am, and I will! Lyne :)

cloudyskies · ~*Service Worker*~

Debilyn, I think you may have meant to respond to another thread with your reply. smile

Lyne, I understand your feelings. Stay focused on you and keep working your program.

It works if you work it.

Breakingfree · ~*Service Worker*~

You sound like you are in a really good place in your recovery, good on you! I love reading this and I am posting in the right place, haha! Sending you love and support on your journey!

SunshineGirl · Senior Member

Thank you for your motivating post, CS.

cloudyskies · ~*Service Worker*~

smile ((SG))

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