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When I moved out in March, my mom helped me by giving me money to do it. I don't like asking my mom for money. But she understood my situation and wanted me out of that house too. She also helped me pay some of my daughter's tuition. She is at a Christian school and they have great daycare hours so I need her to stay there. Plus, I don't want her to have too many changes.
So I get paid Friday. My rent is late on the 5th. they charge a $100 late fee. So I asked my mom for a loan until Friday so I can avoid the late charge. She transferred my rent to me today and called me to tell me "just keep it...use it for daughter's tuition." I immediately started crying. My mom has money....my dad left her some rental property so she is doing well. That's beside the point. I am almost 50 yrs old and borrowing money from my mom. she told me not to move back into the house with AH or she wants all the money back. Lol. Another good incentive to detach even more from him.
I was wondering if any of you relied on relatives for help while separating from the A? I am so grateful today. I have some breathing room financially. I am going to call about the full time job I applied for. I feel needy borrowing money...but my mom says it's fine. I have to trust her. Thank you mom and HP for Helping me today.
When I separated, a friend loaned me $400 to pay the attorney. My sister loaned me $200 to pay the utilities. Another friend loaned me $200 to pay the mortgage up to date. I paid them all back within a year's time. I wasn't dependent on anybody for my financial situation, but did occasionally borrow $20 to $50 from my Mom which I paid back by the upcoming payday. I borrowed $20 from my Dad but he'd tear up the check, so I wouldn't borrow from him. I understand not wanting to borrow money. I didn't do it often and I did work a lot of jobs until I worked myself into a position where I could start a savings and would borrow from myself and pay that back in emergency situations.
-- Edited by grateful2be on Monday 3rd of November 2014 03:18:09 PM
In our case, it appears we're both in agreement that we didn't/don't like to rely on others financially but did ask for loans that we paid or will pay back. That seems to work for both of us.
It's wonderful that your mom could come through for you. A hundred dollars is a big amount to have to pay for being late with your rent and a good school is important for a child. Sounds like your mom wants what's best for you and your daughter and doesn't mind helping you out a bit financially. Yes, my mom did this for me during my divorce. I had never asked her for money before and it was quite a bit. I felt really embarrassed when going to my mother for the money When I spoke about it to another person who was nearer my mother's age, they mentioned the possibility that maybe my mother liked the idea of helping me and got some pleasure from being able to. They suggested I let her. I hadn't really thought of it that way. I'm very grateful to have had her assistance at that time.
Best of luck with job you're interested in. (((hugs))) TT
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