The material presented
here is not Al-Anon Conference Approved Literature. It is a method
to exchange
information, ideas, feelings, problems and solutions on a personal
level.
I got that job at the rehab as clinical director. Was all set to leave with Monday as my last day. We had a conference call today statewide for the current company I work for. The statewide COO was on that call. It was acknowledged I was leaving. 10 minutes after, the state COO called me and offered to match the fairly substantial salary increase to get me to stay. He said he was impressed with my work and had plans for me to grow and take on more responsibility within the southern Florida region. So...weighing it out, it makes sense to stay. There are too many risks going to the new place.
How does this relate to alanon? Well, I am confident now, I knew I was worth more and could do more and I was not afraid of change in order to make that happen. Years ago, I lacked confidence in all areas. The relationship with the ex-A dragged me down and my confidence stayed low. Challenges and changes are not bad. Furthermore, what you are worth in relationships and jobs...it starts from within but it radiates outward. I would not have advocated for myself like this before, but I also didn't invest in myself as much. Knowing when you are capable of more, deserve more, and asking for it are absolutely things I did not so years ago. It's not even so much about money as not fearing change and being assertive. My recovery gave me that.
PS: I also see so much growth on this board. I know there were.challenges (such is life) but some miraculous recovery took place here this month. Go Go team alanon MIP!
Thanks, PC. I'm in a similar situation and will have to decide where I want my career to go. Thanks for sharing your journey with us, and thanks for all of your insight that you share on this board.
I too want to be in a place where I don't fear change and can be more assertive about what I know I am worth and what I need in my career. Should be an interesting month ahead...
Congratulations pinkchip, this has been an excellent example for me of knowing our worth, self care, confidence, all that good stuff that we work to get. Youve got it pal.x
Awesome Pinkchip! Showing us how it is done, congratulations for advocating for you and getting the best outcome for yourself! I am following right behind you realizing I do deserve the best and getting myself through school is a big part of that. Sending you love and support!
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Congratulations, I am new here, so this really encouraging. I am going to be honest right now I feel like a bug on the bottom of a someone's shoe.I feel like I have been run over by a freight train,but I am committed to this so I am hoping for change.
Congratulations PC!!! I love and gain so much from awesome inspirational stories like this- I'm so happy for you!
The disease beats us down in so many ways and on so many levels- recovery of confidence is often a steep climb back - and I'm in process of that too. There is plenty of evidence you are worthy- you're in a marriage with a wonderful and loving partner, you have a good job who has just given you a huge recognition and reward for your achievements, etc. When I have achieved something positive, I have learned that it is important for me to look inside to know and feel confident that I am the same person that shines during times when there isn't as much glory. It helps me stay more deeply rooted and not define myself by less favorable events when the winds of chaos start blustering around me.
Whew!!!!!!!! I am 100% thrilled that you are staying where you are for now and got a raise, too, with a promise for more advancement!!!!!! As you know, I truly was concerned about your making a change as multiple red flags popped up for me when I read your first share - not just for you but for the young people who don't get somebody as gifted as you in their lives very often. I'm glad you went for it. I'm glad they hired you at the level you wanted. I am also glad the company you work for now had the good sense to make some changes to encourage you to stay. Woohoo! If we lived closer, I'd take you to lunch to celebrate the joy I feel for you and for those kids. (((Mark)))
-- Edited by grateful2be on Friday 31st of October 2014 03:01:41 PM
Congratulations! You're giving out good energy and attracting it. Yes, it works when you work it. Of course a little luck doesn't hurt either huh
"We teach other people how to treat us" Congratulations on getting the respect and recognition you deserve. You've been right about YOU all along. You are worth it!
Best of luck! ((hugs)) TT
-- Edited by tiredtonite on Friday 31st of October 2014 03:45:39 PM
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That sounds like good news Mark which is always good...news. They are investing in you and from experience that for me also is a great feeling. You go!!
WOW, Mark, I am so very proud of you....Just wanted to say that I enjoyed reading this post and CONGRATULATIONS for the big step up and realizing your worth.........
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Thanks guys! It completely threw me off center though. My head was already out of the last job and into the new one. I only slept 3 hours the night before last, even though my decision to stay was pretty much made. When I told the COO about all the ideas I had for me to help out more and to be an even greater asset to the facility he confirmed that this was the exact reason he wanted to keep me - because my mindset was not just that "I deserve a raise for what I'm currently doing and that's it." It was "I deserve a raise and a promotion because I can do more and I will show you."
I have been jockeying positions and salaries ever since I got licensed. For the field of mental health/social work, I am making a good salary. For any other field, it is a pittance. I know that happiness is not determined by salary, but I was locked so long in self-sabotage, victimhood, and complaining mode...Now that recovery has unveiled my potential, I am too eager to "get stuff" too fast. I need to work on settling down. I don't know what exactly to think. This jockeying and moving jobs and such is working in terms of elevating my salary, but it is consuming too much of my mental space.
I hope now to settle down. I want to forbid myself from looking for new jobs for like 6 months to a year. I don't even need the money that bad (Chuck and I have no kids and a dual income). It is all about how stuck I was in underpaying jobs for like 15 years and now I am over-driven. So....thanks so much guys/gals. I just gotta keep this in balance and be happy where I am at. It is SOOOO much better than where I came from.
The best work that I've done in my life (so far ) has been with the support of good bosses who valued my potential and gave me the reigns to get on with it. It sounds as if you have unlocked that type of support. With your skills I can imagine you getting some really good satisfaction and recognition as you show the world what can be achieved when you make the role your own.
There's nothing quite like the glowing buzz of professional success,enjoy!!!
Congratulations old chap...! 
on the wisdom contained in your latest share, PC. I like how you listen to your inner voice and heed it.