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I have been living apart from my ah for 4 yrs and about two weeks ago he seemed to decide that he wanted to come back. The week before this he had a really embarrassing incident as a result of his drinking on the football grandfinal day. I have been trying to understand why after 4 yrs of him living his life, working hard and drinking hard, why was he trying to come back to live here.
Before I started to type this I had no idea what his reasons might have been. But I think that him experiencing such embarrassment had been his motivator.
I am not responsible for him and he is not responsible for me. And at the moment this is where I am with the mixed feelings that have stirred.
Im not sure ive got the gist of what your saying, but I think your considering taking back your alcohoilc ex after 4 years. If thats correct then is he sober and in aa? These are the only two conditions I would ever consider for more than 2 seconds. And I would most likely still say no, never, ever.
Everyones different but ive been on that rollercoaster and I got stuck for almost 20 years, that was ebough for me to last me a lifetime. Im free and I plan to stay free. Maybe youve forgotten the reality, the reasons why you split, maybe youve exaggerated any good times you had, maybe your just lonely. None of this is any reason to play with fire again, well not for me, especially that he wants to use you because he feels bad about some embarrising incident. No way is that good enough. You deserve much better reasons than that, love and care would be more like it.
