The material presented
here is not Al-Anon Conference Approved Literature. It is a method
to exchange
information, ideas, feelings, problems and solutions on a personal
level.
Both the Courage to Change and Hope For Today daily readers have pages on the subject...not extensive and some. Then too other titles like expectations and reactions and such could also expand the subject as they did for me. I'm sure there is more that others can offer. (((hugs)))
I'm not sure if you regularly attend Al-Anon meetings? Although we don't give advice in Al-Anon meetings, listening to members share the ways they have helped themselves is one of the number one helps I've received in boundary setting. I do what sounds right to me and watch what happens. Listening to myself and paying attention to what I need and what I want in my life and doing what will bring that about for me is also a help. Boundaries are always for us and not the other person. As an example: If I need to be in bed by 10 and my A stays up late drinking and watching TV in our bedroom, I might choose to sleep in another part of the house rather than argue with him about it if I've already asked him to drink and watch TV somewhere else in the house so that I can get the rest I need and he's said "no" to my request.
