The material presented
here is not Al-Anon Conference Approved Literature. It is a method
to exchange
information, ideas, feelings, problems and solutions on a personal
level.
I haven't ever had a sponsor newpaths, but what I do have are very good healthy people in my life that do things way differently to me and I love their consequences, so I look to find people that have what I want and try and practice doing what they do, what I have found though is when I bump heads with some people it's because I am quite similar, I have really took a dislike to those people and then as I have got to know them better I realise they mirror me, and then I find I really get to like them alot.
Katy
Wonderful plan you have, actually for the last few months I have been trying to make a few
friendships thru alanon but People are so busy, untrusting (which I can relate to) I'm still trying
just a little discouraged
Now the bumping heads with, makes sense, I've also read, Maybe it means the same if someone really
annoys you its Because you see yourself in them, that I found to be true, lol So I can relate to the
bumping heads I just don't understand how a person is able to turn that around into a relationship/friendship
maybe I'll Learn in time. Thanks for sharing, maybe I'm not suppose to have a sponsor yet.
Thanks again, wishing you a wonderful day
Newpaths I can't and don't get along with everyone I bump heads with, and thats the part I am still working on, knowing when enough is enough and it's just time to leave it be, easier said than done with fair weather friends but with family and people where my heart is invested jeez it is soooooooooooo hard,
When I felt the need for a sponsor, I started paying attention to the folks in my group in a different way. I was seeking a person who had long-term experience in Al-Anon (and for me that was over 10 years and that is only me), demonstrated an ability to interact with people in our groups very well and had knowledge of the program that was obvious. I had been in Al-Anon for many years before I chose an actual person in Al-Anon as a mentor or sponsor. Until that time, I'd had women outside the group who had loved, nurtured and mentored me. I stayed with that person for many years until we became more co-sponsors of each other and I recognized a desire to go even deeper with the program and when I was aware of that desire, employed pretty much the same way of seeking a sponsor as I had with the first person. Now, I have a sponsor who has more than 25 years of intense Al-Anon program work and some similar life experiences.
At my meetings people will offer to be a temporary sponsor.
You could ask someone you like that had raised their hand.
It seems like people go thru a few sponsors before they find the
right one.
I waited two+ years before getting one she actually volunteered
For the job. But it probably would have been easier to comprehend
The program with someone experienced guidance.
Mirandac
Thanks for an excellent suggestion, I will definitely ask my HP to guide me Until a permanent sponsor comes along. : )
Greatful2be
Once again i enjoy hearing your wisdom. Honestly I think I've learned more here the last 2 days then I have at the meetings in
The last couple months. I'm trying a new meeting tonight, it's an hour away but I really need a meeting. Thanks for sharing, for your support an wisdom!
