The material presented
here is not Al-Anon Conference Approved Literature. It is a method
to exchange
information, ideas, feelings, problems and solutions on a personal
level.
Just needing to be heard I guess. So tired of crying about my AH...who I am divorcing. The pain just comes in waves--I am fine some days, others I am a basket-case clinging to the shattered dream as it slips away. I see us both struggling and feeling confused, angry, sad...all these emotions at once. So overwhelming. I feel guilty and then justified. So hard to explain. I'm just grateful for Al-Anon...for support of good friends who don't judge me and my 2 kids who bring me back to reality with just a little smile. Life should not be this painful. Time to get a good night's sleep and start again tomorrow. Thanks for listening.
I saw the subject of your post and I was curious. Why? Why flooded with emotions? Then I opened your post and many of the feeling I had when I was in a divorce were remembered. I'm glad you came here for comfort and understanding. It's where I came many years ago and received lots of unconditional love. Divorce is such a painful experience. Hope you keep coming back to share. We understand and care. (((hugs))) TT
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Surround yourself with people and elements that support your destiny, not just your history.
I can relate to all of what yOu shared and just wanted to tell you it's totally ok. Grieving is a non time limited thing and everyone is different. It came in waves and I realized this last week because of the healing because of the awareness of the emotional garbage I didn't deal with in an appropriate way back when .. It's all still there to be handled. The good news is this too shall pass .. the good days get longer .. and the not so good days come in waves. Once they pass I'm in a stronger place. So hold tight .. it gets better .. it is all of those things you describe.
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Faith minus vulnerability and mystery equals extremism. If you've got all the answers, then don't call what you do "faith". - Brene Brown
"Whatever truth you own doesn't own you" - Gary John Bishop
My dry AH has been gone and stated he wanted a divorce 10 weeks ago.
He has a new GF, Lives with her and at his mothers.
I too understand. I am struggling everyday, I feel like I got beat up with
A baseball bat. My mind willl not stay focused, I am on emotional overload.
It takes 85% of our emotional energy during divorce that leaves you 15%
For everything else in your life.
So much of old pain and emotions come into play when you are mourning
And grieving. Also you face a lot of hard truths that were hidden in denial or
Shame. There are so many emotions and feelings to handle, you feel like
You are going to explode with all the things inside you.
I'm so sorry you're going through this difficult time. Hang in there...this, like everything else, will pass. A year from now you'll be through the worst and well on your way to a better life....
