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Note to self...NEVER assign a specific iPhone pre-loaded text/ring tone to your significant other. Ive learned my lesson-LOL. Although we split quite some time ago, it's amazing how I still react to this. I was in a meeting the other day and someone kept getting text message alerts with the same text tone that I had assigned to my ex. Every single time the tone sounded, I could feel it in the pit of my stomach! ARGH Of course, that text tone used to bring a smile to my face. Unfortunately, that sound now has the opposite effect, even coming from someone else's phone.
I did the same thing with my son's number. It got so bad I had to end it and change the tone. When it rang I didn't know who it was unless I looked at the phone. Helped a lot with my detachment.
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Lord, put your arm around my shoulder and your hand over my mouth
Speak only when you feel that your words are better than your silence.
I can relate to this, when I first got together with my ex I put his calls as a specific ringer, I remember how happy I was with each time it rang. Now it is just melancholy that fills me when I hear it, sadness for what was I guess. I also remember when he was finally loading all his stuff to move out, his phone rang with MY ring tone, a pretty clear message that I'd been replaced even though he claimed he wanted us to work thing out. I doubt i'll ever assign a special ringtone to anybody again.
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I am strong in the broken places. ~ Unknown
All changes, even the most longed for, have their melancholy; for what we leave behind us is a part of ourselves; we must die to one life before we can enter another! ~ Anatole France
Of course, that text tone used to bring a smile to my face. Unfortunately, that sound now has the opposite effect, even coming from someone else's phone. 