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Lyne


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I am annoyed with myself this morning.  For two nights my spouse has logged between 12-14 hrs of sleep.  Friday night she had stomach problems and last night her cheeks were flushed bright red.  These are signs of drinking to me.  I held it in as long as I could but this morning I asked her if she was drinking again.  Of course she denied it.  Of course I don't believe her.  We had a brief fight, and my serenity certainly got messed up.  A wise person on the board once said, if you know the answer to a question, don't ask it.  Practice, practice, practice, Lyne



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Sounds like you've got some good awareness going.  Keep on taking good care of yourself!



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Progress not perfetion Lyne You shared, now it is time to focus on yourself and regain your hard won serenity .

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They do die hard but you felt you had to ask and you know so take care of you because she is not going to take care you.


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"If you know the answer to a question don't ask"
Love it. Thanks for sharing.
We learn by making mistakes. Let's keep working.

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for sure don't beat yourself up.

I want to say however, what does it matter if she drinks or not to you?She is an A of course she is going to drink, or not....she has a disease, this will always be part of her. That does not mean it has to be part of you.

I learned to not care one bit, accepted him whatever he was. I still do, I just don't get to live with him anymore. His brain damage made him dangerous. I don't want to know if he uses or not. not my issue.

hugs honey



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Lyne, I understand what you are saying. It would be wonderful if we had a magic wand with which we could wave all of our bad habits away.  I'm looking at my recovery as a journey and every now and then I hit a bump. Just recently I hit a "pothole", but think of it like this... our slips, bumps and potholes are helping us to become stronger as we continue our journey.

Hang in there and take one day at a time.

It works if you work it!

 



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