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My AH called at 1030 last night to say he is moving today to the 3/4 way house, he said they "puked" him from the 1/2 way house. He will more than likely stay there for another 6 months. So he is happy. Me, I don't really care. He keeps saying we can now start doing all these things like marriage counseling and spending time together and I don't believe him. First thing out of his mouth was I gotta get my cell phone back right away. Priorities. This is now his time to live up to all that he has said and if he doesn't then I am moving on out.
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Linda
Don't worry about tomorrow, tomorrow will have it's own worries
Honor yourself. As Serenity said, actions speak louder than words. Your heart will tell you which direction to go. Be open to having that conversation with yourself and by that I mean that my own heart has been closed for so long that I have lived always reacting and grabbing the first available solution.
Al Anon has taught me to think before I act. I have more peace within myself than I've ever had because I take the time to process what is happening in the moment, fight the instinct to go straight to anger, and act in a manner that is best for me.
He got move to the new 3/4 house and was sent to the only one that has 30 day restrictions, meaning he cannot go anywhere or do anything. The counselors mandated he get marriage counseling so we start on Tuesday. So for the next 30 days it's back to being the weekend visiting wife with him. This time I insisted we set a plan for visiting, no more calling me and saying ok you can come here in 15 minutes and stay for 2 hours. We setup time for Saturday and time for Sunday which includes us going to church. Something is better than nothing I guess.
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Linda
Don't worry about tomorrow, tomorrow will have it's own worries
I hope you can get a counselor who understands the disease of alcoholism. Otherwise, it might be hard. It's interesting to me how my AH sounds similar to yours in the way they talk..."they puked him out". It so immature...lol. My AH says the same kind of stuff. Maybe A's have a language of their own.
