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She lives out of home part time- that means she wants somewhere to keep her large family of pet rats (she can't have them at my parents house anymore as my mum is allergic) but still has a bed and stuff at my parents and stays there when she has school. Before you say eww, she's a clean-freak so she keeps the little critters clean and smell free. Anyway she wants a new "second home" and I guess when she's away I would be charged with feeding critters. She can't pay a lot but she has come to understand that I can't feed her for $100 a week, it will cover her rent and water usage (for all the rat washing lol).
So she is happy to go as far as the main town near here which is 30 minutes drive from my current location. It isnt EXACTLY what I want but it's certainly adequate and I need to remind myself that i can't have everything the way I want it right now...this is pretty close to it...there are many, many parts of this arrangement that work for me, plus my sister and my daughter are as thick as thieves (both rat-lovers....weirdo's....).
It would mean moving to my parents for a few weeks while we find a place and get her financials documented etc.
This means....I can allow parents to help with the moving etc without feeling useless (baby sister leaving the nest...they're gonna help her and by proxy, me, LOL)
It means, I can go and stay there for a few weeks without feeling like I have cut myself off from my life here without any way of coming back because, the plan is to come back...(daughter is going to high school here next year and has gotten into a special smart kids program, it's a big deal for her).
I could save money in those few weeks. I could get some city driving practice in with my brother and also make connections for my cosmetics business (which i am going to put more effort into since I cant find a job anywhere).
Anyway there are a lot of pro's, the only real con is that petrol is expensive and I will have to get daughter and I back to this town every day for a few more months yet. Plus if i want to keep up daily beach-walks...well, it's only 30 minutes anyway. It's not impossible.
So, I think, this is positive and good. And she's been talking about it for long enough that I think she is serious and will follow through with the plan. So, today I feel a little excited and relieved.
Yay.
Oh, and while I am at my parents I can't get my daughter to school here every day, it's a massive journey and will knock me out doing it 2 days a week for my classes. Don't know what to do about this, a few weeks at a different school? Is that possible or home-school and take her 2 days a week? Ugh!!! This is the biggest worry. Hmmm. -- Edited by missmeliss on Wednesday 24th of September 2014 07:54:36 PM
-- Edited by missmeliss on Wednesday 24th of September 2014 07:57:32 PM
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If I had a world of my own, everything would be nonsense. Nothing would be what it is, because everything would be what it isn't. And contrary wise, what is, it wouldn't be. And what it wouldn't be, it would. You see? (Lewis Caroll)
I don't know if it's going to be the answer or not but it certainly feels better to have possibilities start to open up, it was seeming pretty hopeless and scary for a while there.
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If I had a world of my own, everything would be nonsense. Nothing would be what it is, because everything would be what it isn't. And contrary wise, what is, it wouldn't be. And what it wouldn't be, it would. You see? (Lewis Caroll)
I heard this recently and loved it " this is a benevolent universe". I know the fear when faced with despairing situations and I know the peace I feel when I know my HP has my back. This possibility might be a reminder that there is more to come that you cannot yet see.
You know.....you just have to continue to be positive and focus on moving forward and the rewards can and will come. You never know what's around the next corner ...good or bad we can overcome it one way or another.
((( hugs )))) keep the faith!!
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