I will try and be concise and not long winded.

My husband has been a heavy, heavy drinker since we met.  I drank too, I'd like to add so I don't think I realized his behavior as problematic then.  After we married I was pregnant for two years in a row, nursing for babies until our last was nearly two so drinking was not an option and thankfully, it never became a problem and I rarely drink now.

My husband, well...he was putting away two huge Kirkland bottles of vodka a week or two handles of Captain Morgan...and that was after three to four beers after getting off work.  There would be times I would tell him to stop after extreme nights of drinking when he would fall face first into the floor, pee the bed, make phone calls to people he shouldn't, etc.  But he always went back to drinking slowly until it became problematic again.  Then things started getting chaotic.  He became more and more disinterested in me, the kids, he became extremely short tempered, starting calling me names and getting nasty (which was unlike him), punching holes in the walls, the kids didn't want daddy around, and I started to REALLY hate him.  I would say "you're drinking too much" or "I think you need to cut it back", but he would roll his eyes and not listen.  I became afraid of saying anything that would set him off.  He is the sole provider for us and he went on a work trip that my brother happened to be on (work together) and I got a call from my brother who said, "your husband has a problem and made a complete ass of himself at the bar in front of co workers."  

So, he's starting to realize things need to change.  He's said, I won't drink hard liquor anymore.  He is doing better-- only drinking a couple beers here after work now.  And he's much kinder but there's also a lot of emotions going on.

I just need feedback or guidance...I have been to al anon once before but am thinking of going back...any help or assessment would be appreciated...