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Wisdom67


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Well since I been divorce I noticed my need to save ppl suddenly went a way UNTIL I went out on a day date and things were going good sitting at the bar which I wouldn't be caught dead at before . Ordered dinner he ordered a beer and I had my favorite drink of all times water with lemon and lime. My date say well that's boring , red flag number 1 . Then after his 8 th beer 100,00 later asked me to drive him home , I said WHAT did u ask me out for dinner or to drive your intoxicated self home! I said if I new U were going to get drunk I would not of wasted my time. I said thank you for the dinner it was nice and thank you for reminding me I have a meeting to go to. Yes I'm sure I could of been a bit nicer but again falling in to that codependents ways made me realize I'm responsible for my own self im not going to let myself be used as a sober drive. And this person new my prio relationship problem with ppl who over drink.. Thank goodness I had enough courage to get up and leave. Another lesson learned !!

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Way to go you!!!!  Well done!!!  And it is great to hear from youbiggrin  These guys don't know that you know your stuff and theirs....love it.  You said what you meant, meant what you said and did not say it mean.



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WOWE WOWE WOWE I'm proud of you sister!!! Great job taking care of you and only you this time. Loving it!!

((( hugs )))) keep coming back because we care here


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Glad you took care of yourself and went on home.

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Great to see you Wisdom - and great to see you taking care of yourself so well.

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Hi Wisdom, sorry it happened, but you got tested and passed with flying colors!! Good job!

Kenny

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HelloWisdom, I missed you and am glad that you returned with such a positive awareness. Living with the disease of alcoholism teaches us many lessonsand as long as we learned the lessons in the first time around we don't have to repeat them. So glad that you took care of yourself and then returned here with the message of your recovery.

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Mirandac


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Wisdom you might need a lot of healing and grieving time. I know
I do, I hope not to go on a guy date for a few years. I have had two
Girl dates lined up on Fridays and again this Friday. It gives me
Something to look forward to, but no men. I have men friends I talk
To but only in a casual sort of way no dinner dates.

When you finally get out of the abuse your thinking becomes clearer.
Your body is relaxed not tensed. I have been facing a lot of truths in
My grieving and healing time it is very clensing to let out your anger,hurt,
rejection And pain. I cry a lot it is not depression its grief.

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Luiza


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Well done!
When and if I start dating again, one of the 1st things I want to pay attention to is their relationship with alcohol.
When I met my STBXAH all the red flags were there but I didn't know what to do with them. Now I do.

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Congratulations!! That was so very cool that you recognized all those signs and walked away!!!

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Hello wisdom, where you been? Great post, great choice, well done.x

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Debilyn


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I am daft I guess. You told him no you would not drive him home. You told him if you had known he was a drunk you would not have gone...where did you go wrong?

Looks to me you did great!  Did I miss something???



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