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That was last nights topin here in mip was an awesome meeting like always glad I got to be there I've been really sick for over a week now with upperrespitory infections that don't seem to go away ,we had lots of shares on this topic I found it. Rey interesting although I didn't share ,only way we can help the alcoholic is only by helping ourselves whoa!!!!i answered that one right,lol I have such a hard time trying to grasp this program ,I see so many others that come in here that' picks up of it seems soo easy.but that did bring me a lot of relief just knowing that that is the only way we can really truly bot ten line help our alcoholic/addict is by helping ourselves wished Id knowledge how to copied that whole meeting it wash great.hopefully I'll be better and able to go to my FTf meeting this mon. Nite.
HI Lookingup Thanks for the inspiring message. I have missed you and do hope you begin to feel better physiclly very soon. You are doing great Remember it is progress not perfection and you havee come a long way from the days that you posted as "Silent".
Hey LU. I hope you get better soon. As far as helping the alcoholic, well it took me over 14 years to finally understand that I could not help him, so I guess in that aspect, I would be classified as a slow learner. The sun seems to shine a little brighter, and the birds seem to sing a little louder now that the burden of helping my alcoholic husband has been lifted from my shoulders. I'm so glad you are going to meetings.
It works if you work it.
Keep coming back.
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Look for the rainbow after the storm, and I'm sending you a double dose of HOPE. H-hold O-on P-pain E-ends
Umm....this is the first post that you were not obsessing over your A and about to sacrifice yourself in some way that made me want to yell "NOOOO don't do it" on the inside.
I would say you are picking up the program rather well. You are: 1. Going to meetings. 2. Really listening and applying what you hear there.
Wow,y'all just made my day ,feel like I just got my very 1st A in alanon progress,but i am sooo glad that finnalyaly something is working out here for me ,hmmm now I'm really needing to work my steps really bad but I don't have a spinster to help me with that .any suggestions???? Y'all are truely amaze ing in my books
Just keep looking for someone at your meetings. Get phone numbers of other member, preferably those with time in the program and call them. This will not only lead you to probably finding a sponsor, but it will give you a support network.
although I didn't share ,only way we can help the alcoholic is only by helping ourselves whoa!!!!i answered that one right,lol I have such a hard time trying to grasp this program ,I see so many others that come in here that' picks up of it seems soo easy.
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This part stuck out in my mind.... Don't ever compare your insides to whatever you think about other people's outsides.... meaning, some of us still muddle through even though we say all the right things and "know" in our hearts what the right thing is. AlAnon is a hard program to implement. It is easier if you are mad as hell. But being angry will rip up the insides.
I, personally, "know" what to do and how to feel and I still have a hard time doing it with love and acceptance. My hubby's sponsor even called me "not very compassionate" (to my face) because I am not manipulated any more. The toll it has taken on me makes me use avoidance and I realize I am very stiff and rigid when I am with my alcoholic. I have been in AlAnon for 14 years and I have done what I need to do in the program and I continue to do it. All my friends in the program make me happy and alive and animated. And for all that I am grateful that the alcoholic situation pushed me toward AlAnon and I learned who I am.
You will progress in AlAnon at the rate that you work the program. Today you are exactly where you should be. Until you find that "right" person that you want to be your closest friend, your sponsor, use the group as your sponsor and ask lots of questions. Someone will jump out to you as being the one that you want. That support network that Pinkchip talks about is truly wonderful.
Thank you maryjane and everyone here for all this valuable help I get from coming here and my FTf this is what's really keeping me from going completely crazy.
