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texasgal


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I went on a few dates with a man I met, but I didn't feel comfortable anymore. I am still not divorced from my ah. I haven't seen or had any contact with him in 8 months. But I am still legally married and since I am I do not feel comfortable dating. I just sent my ah an email requesting divorce. The man I went on date with was ok and funny he didn't drink or smoke but I am not ready for all the emotional things that come with it. I feel independent and free for the first time in a long time. I am willing to be just friends with him. I do not want anything more I am not ready. I am grateful to program for giving me the tools I need to overcome these obstacles.

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SerenityRUS


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Holy Cow Texas Gal I feel the same way and I've been on perma hold at the moment for 3 years almost .. I have tried and just am not feeling it so I figure that is the God of my understanding telling me that it's just not time yet and that is ok. I have lived a lot of years in a relationship thinking that was what I was suppose to do .. I am fully enjoying my freedom of not having to deal with the idea of another person .. I have my hands full with the kids. Most men my age don't want to take on other men's kids that are this young and that's ok .. it will take a very special person for me to want to get involved again on that level. I am just not ready. Like you believe it or not .. I still feel married, .. because .. I am.

Hugs S :)

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grateful2be


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I like seeing you honoring your own boundaries and limits in this regard. I hope the desire for and the completion of a divorce goes smoothly for you.

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Mirandac


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There is no rush. Give yourself time, i plan on giving myself
Plenty of time. I would love to have a healthy relationship
Someday with a partner valueing and caring for me. Treating
me as An equal partner. "Not like my ah does" absolutely
No alcoholism or dysfunctionals need apply.

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