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Flower49


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Interesting lunch phone call with my AH. He said in his pitiful voice that he only has 15 dollars till he gets paid next week. He had to pay his rent, pay guys for gas to drive him around and of course he paid me. Now, he is almost 1000 up on his rent at the house. He then indicated that although he had invited me to two activities and he would pay my way in, now he can't.

Ok, well my thought is what are you doing being so far advanced on your rent and you also know that you invited me to attend you should have planned better. Next, it suddenly became very clear to me that on Wednesday he knew he was short and that is why he convienantly forgot to get permission to go to the bank, he was going to just not go!

 



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grateful2be


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Good that he paid you when you stuck to the plan you both agreed upon at some point in this? And now a new day and a new wrinkle that puts you in a position of paying your way in or not going at all to the activities? Sending you lots of encouragement and lots of prayers as you and your HP decide the next step that is right for you, Linda.

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Debilyn


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for me I don't need any details. Just pay the reponsible for him family stuff. Like you said, he could just deposit it,not have to call  you or contact you.again you are not his accountant.

To me it looks like he had control over you and broke your serenity. Those are the the things that make you sick.

YOu are pretty amazing how you are taking all this. sure gives you time to see the kind of person he is. It is sad as I am sure you loved him very much.

This disease is so horrible...hugs

 



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