Well, my Abf decided to drink last night, first on an empty stomach and then we ate dinner. He drank till 5:30 am this morning. I went to bed at 10 pm and told him not to bother me. He let me sleep and that was great. He sat up all night and watched TV and talked to himself. I had to laugh as I woke up a few times and heard him talking to himself. He was drunk. I did not care as long as he let me sleep as I was tired. He has been doing better as I learn to set boundaries with him. I have discussed his drinking with him and he says if I do not like him drinking for me to leave. I decided to stay at his place last night as I needed to rest. I am grateful I was able to sleep despite his drinking alone. I feel great today and going out to enjoy the day. He is sleeping now and there is empty beer all over the coffee table but I will not clean it up. Its not my problem. I am learning to detach and keep the focus on me. His drinking is still ongoing but it has gotten much better. He was a daily drinker-binge for days to now just one night, since I have threatened to leave the relationship and packed my belongings in his home. I have also been direct with him and said I can not stop you from drinking but slow it down to the weekends, either a Friday or Saturday night and one night only. I have seen improvements as he has slowed down a lot and taken my suggestion. Will he quite for good, unlikely. He was sober for 14 years prior and started drinking heavy again the past 3 years. I keep looking at the positives and not letting his sick behavior effect me. I have been praying a lot and keeping the focus on me and my well being. I can not stop his drinking. I have come to accept that. I can tolerate one evening of drinking but not days on end. He lost his last job to drinking and has not taken another job since. Its been going on two weeks now and is in the union-(electrician). The other day he said, while sober, he is burning bridges with his work and running out of options as to where to work. I said that he is. I just thought this is not my problem. Its up to you to fix your life. He knows all about AA and recovery and talks about recovery when sober and prays but then goes back to drinking. I just have to keep focused on me and me alone. I am working on it!