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perfectionism


My name is lc and im a recovering perfectionist. What are you recovering from?



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Cute avatar, lc. I'm recovering from the belief that other people's discomforts, behaviors, consequences, opinions, feelings, beliefs are any of my business.

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Alcoholism, codependency, binge-eating, all or nothing thinking, martyrdom, mental and physical laziness, neuroticism, and lack of spirituality.

Short order right?

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Love the avatar....I am right there with you in the recovery from perfectionism!

 



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I am recovering from being a "HUMAN DOING" to becoming a "HUMAN BEING ".

It is a big difference.

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Hi lc, I'm also a recovering perfectionist. I'm also recovering from control issues.



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My early sponsor and sponsorship (group) told me and taught me to "Get over yourself Jerry F"!!!  soooo I'm recovering from the old me.  LOL  really.  I tended to do as much as I could in life so that God didn't have to work so hard.   LOL   The avatar drives me nuts.   (((((hugs))))) smile



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I to am a recovering perfectionist! I am learning that life and natue are gifts, that the ego sometimes causes me to miss the beauty of life at these very moments. I am learning to not sweat the small stuff!!

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I'm just your old fashion control freak....



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I am recovering from constant trying and people pleasing. 



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Recovering from building up walls while also trying to take care of others mainly by controling everything!

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Hi LC

Good question. What Am I recovering from?
I think I am so messed up that I don't even know the answer. I wish someone could tell me. I see I have a lot of work to do.
But I want to find a cure for my low self esteem. The sense that I don't worth much. Or that I "can't" do things just because I am 'me'.
I guess getting close and closer to my HP will help me with that.
Thanks for asking.


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I am recovering from thinking I can read people's minds. I am recovering from trying to control another person. Recovering from denial. Recovering from arguing. I need to just walk away from arguments.

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I suppose the next question that goes along with this is how are you recovering?

For me, im going to meetings, sharing myself here, trying to keep in mind that I am enough, im good enough, using the steps every day, reading the readings. Im not perfect, my recovery isnt perfect, but im willing, im trying to live the philosophy of alanon every day. Coming here and sharing that with like minded people who are on their own recovery journey, who know and love the philosophy is helpful to my recovery.
Maybe we all have a responsibility to work it in order to share the message and the learning and help others along their journey. Thanks for the replys.x

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Meetings, daily time with my HP and my sponsor and sponsoree, daily readings, doing more of what I love to do and less of what I don't love doing, listening and sharing at MIP, spending time with friends and family members, recognizing what I do know about recovery and what I don't know, and working on practicing what I've learned in the program and sharing that practice helps me in recovery. I go to meetings with the intent of receiving what I need for me and I share what seems helpful or appropriate to me in the meetings if I sense it is what my HP wants me to do. I have to say that I am often very quiet in my groups since many tend to be very large groups and more vocal in the smaller groups. I also go to other groups that help me deepen my connection to my HP and also provide me with a wide circle of folks with whom I share life. I tend to gravitate mostly to folks who are older in my outer life with wisdom and experience to share that helps mentor me in my own aging process and people who are full of life and laugh a lot or are highly artistic and creative. That all helps my recovery. Thanks for sharing, elcee, and for listening, too, sister.

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