My mess (Funny, yet true) - Al-Anon Family Group

pinkchip · ~*Service Worker*~

My mess (Funny, yet true)

grateful2be · ~*Service Worker*~

smile I don't make my bed and I'm glad to know there truly are others who do - even when company isn't coming. I leave my mess for myself and I don't clean it up - at least not with making my bed anyway. Since both sides of the bed are messy, I don't step up to the plate although I do change my bedding and then I make my bed. smile

I do like reading how you and Chuck can both see where one ends and the other begins. Thank you for the share, PC. It does remind me to keep my attention focused on me and what I'm doing or not doing and leave others to do that for themselves.

hotrod · ~*Service Worker*~

I agree Mark Learning how to partner, love without caretaking is a true gift of this program. i am so vey glad I learned --Befor alanon I would have thought that action unkind but today, I understand and do the same :)

likemyheart · ~*Service Worker*~

I'm trying to envision exactly HOW you pristinely make HALF a bed! Making my bed involves throwing the comforter up over the bed and tugging on the corners to get it straight, its that easy and I rarely do it. I hate top sheets trapping my feet in the bed so I don't use one. But what humor Chuck displays by making just his half! Lucky you both are!

PP · ~*Service Worker*~

i will say a cliche, because that is what came up...." He sounds like a keeper" smile

Cathyinaz · ~*Service Worker*~

ALL the jobs we both do around the house can be let go on his part. Over the years it has not worked until it gets bad. Example....he takes off his socks by his chair each day. I don't pick them up and he's doesn't until he has nothing left in the drawer to wear..lol. Trash this week I didn't take it out and it was full with I can say 10 or more plastic and paper items sitting beside it. I came home yesterday and thanked him for taking out the trash....he put a smile on his face. But PC?? when will he just start thinking about it like you do....I can only pray he will someday but right now it go's right over his head until it gets bad.

((( hugs ))))

Good Job....

Jerry F · ~*Service Worker*~

A good metaphor also...Loved the pictures and even more the determination he was using to make sure "just half" was nicely done. I love the responses cause laughing is the very best way to start my day and just before my home group starts. Mahalo PC and certainly ((((Chuck)))) you get an "attaboy"!!!

pinkchip · ~*Service Worker*~

I don't know that it ever would have dawned on me if not for being in program. I still revert backwards if I'm not vigilant too. I don't want to be that selfish and inconsiderate person I used to be. People not in program do not take their own inventories like we do. Prior to sobriety and the program, someone could have (and did) leave my own messes for me and I just refused to clean it up. It is a combo of me wanting to be different and spoken and unspoken things we (me and Chuck) do to try and function from a healthy place as individuals and a couple.

Debilyn · ~*Service Worker*~

This made me giggle. I like this a lot. I think you should get some mints and put one on his pillow! lol

HUGS,

blessed · Senior Member

Debilyn. I loved your post. lol!

el-cee · ~*Service Worker*~

The sign of a healthy relationship, an unmade side of the bed. Lol, I can relate to this. The person making both sides was me, its quite symbolic of my controlling and obsession.

pinkchip · ~*Service Worker*~

This is what a half made bed looks like :) Since you all asked he he

grateful2be · ~*Service Worker*~

Why, PC!!!!!!! Your side of the bed looks incredibly like my entire bed except mine usually has at least 1 cat in it. Both when I try to make it.

Thank you for today's laugh! I love this family's truth telling and sense of humor.

pinkchip · ~*Service Worker*~

The cat was actually laying on the neat side in the corner that is cut off in the picture :) She prefers the neat side.

grateful2be · ~*Service Worker*~

Grin.

el-cee · ~*Service Worker*~

Haha, I know what to look for now if I have another relationship with anyone.x

andromeda · ~*Service Worker*~

LOL! I love that picture! I have never been a bed -maker by nature although I hate clutter and messes and stuff on the floor, etc. I've never understood why we make a bed if no one is going to see it and if I have to crawl into in in another 16 hours.

Now, I have to make my bed or else my dog will find his way onto my sheets and put his head on the pillow and I'll end up inhaling dog hair every night. So, now I make my bed but I have a funny way of doing it...not that you guys asked, LOL. I grab the sheet, comforter, and top blanket and then I shimmy myself up towards the pillows as I draw the bed coverings up and over my legs and then I slowly pull my legs out so as not to disturb the coverings. I slide out the side of the bed, grab the decorative pillows that are on the floor next to the bed, and then toss them up. Takes me 1 minute and my bed is made, VOILA! I have to make sure that the pillows cover the comforter and blanket, too, or else the dog will pull the coverings down so that he can sleep on the sheets!!! He's crafty, this dog, so I am constantly trying to keep up with his antics, LOL. I've gone in there before to find my decorative pillows pushed aside, the coverings pulled down, and the dog sleeping peacefully on my pillow and on the bottom sheet. ARRGGHH!

NL14 · Veteran Member

That's a great story and perfect metaphor. I'm the bed-maker (of course) in our family, but my AH will make it if I don't. Of course, I usually re-do some of what he's done because I'm a control freak. Yes, I'm trying to pull back on that kind of behavior. I've at least stopped rearranging the dishwasher after he's loaded it! And after years of washing/folding/putting away the whole family's laundry I stopped putting AH's away...and just this summer we agreed he'd do his laundry and one of our sons', and he has. Baby stepping my way to sanity...

likemyheart · ~*Service Worker*~

Lol, well I am relieved in a way that Chuck's side looks like a bed half made, I was envisioning military strict tight sheet corners and all and how in the world would it be possible to do THAT to half a bed?!? I rarely make the bed, i'm the only one seeing it and sleeping in it, the occasional throwing comforter over three sides bug hits me but I try to tamp that urge down as much as possible, closed doors are a good thing! Thanks PC!

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