I will second Mark's response Yes, there are many happy endings and each may be different from the other. Keep working the program and your happy ending may look different from everyone elses.

I like Mark's new happy beginning. I find your story PC, to be of much inspiration. I also appreciate the double winners in Alanon and AA that work the program hard. Living the change and sharing hope for others. KRae, I know for myself that my happy ending will be that I did what I needed to do to take care of myself, emotionally, physically and spiritually regardless of what the A's in my life do or don't. Living each day and staying in the moment helps. If at the end of my journey I am happy with how I lived, then how fortunate I am to understand that it is a choice I made to enjoy it. I am grateful that my relationship with my first A changed. He chooses to suffer in his disease. I am a much better support to him living separately. I learned how to set boundaries and follow through. It was a difficult separation at first and I cried and thought I would never love another. I couldn't possibly love him more then I do right now. I would have never seen that coming. Trust the process.

None of my loved ones stopped using and yet I learned how to stop using them for how I thought, how I felt and what I did. Happiness truly is an inside job that is not contingent on others. I'm not meaning there aren't gray days, sad days, painful times and yet it is more how I think that determines whether or not my experience of life is one that looks at the glass as half full or half empty. Acceptance is the key to so much that happens and Al-Anon gives us the tools to live life on life's terms to the best of our ability regardless of what our loved ones do or don't do.