Am I just letting my imaginations run wild? - Al-Anon Family Group

lookingup · ~*Service Worker*~

Am I just letting my imaginations run wild?

hotrod · ~*Service Worker*~

Lu Any time you find yourself thinking of your BF, say the serenity prayer, wish him well in your mind and then bring the focus back to your Business. Make you asset list, make a gratitude list, join chat, write on the Board Keep your mind on your business and your life. You are powerless over him and thinking about him is a waste of your precious life

PP · ~*Service Worker*~

I found that I had to do MY recovery work to know the value of the face to face meetings. If I went to meetings (or share on MIP) with my lazy self and did not do my work in collaboration with the GOD infused shares, I would see the meetings not working for me.

JustJill · Member

Looking- Good advice about wishing him peace and wellness and enjoying your own peace without him there. I know we all go on our own roads wherever they may lead. Sometimes we take the longer path and that is just the way it is. For me, I know I am far to concerned with his life at the moment. I need to be concerned with myself. Love yourself.

KennyFenderjazz · ~*Service Worker*~

Until I let go and let God, I couldn't rid myself of panic and exhaustion worrying about my wife when she would binge. I hope you can do the same. Doing that with serenity prayer as Betty suggested would be great.

But first you have to know that you haven't let go. Pray and try to ask HP what he thinks, and whether HP can really take care of your BF, and whether he can take care of you. Assuming your answer is yes, then with work you can let go and let God.

Kenny

lookingup · ~*Service Worker*~

Thanks for the reminders I'm really gonna have to write these reminders on my white board where I can see them as soon as I awake in the mornings.

PP · ~*Service Worker*~

Good to have those reminders smile Also, there is an evening online meeting tonight.

KennyFenderjazz · ~*Service Worker*~

Sometimes I would like to have the reminders posted to the inside of my eyelids so I can see them even before I open my eyes in the morning!

Debilyn · ~*Service Worker*~

Hon I invite you to listen with your heart, care about them.

Sometimes it is more we learn when we give. I smile at people, shake my head when I agree. After meeting ask if anyone wants to go sit and drink tea or coffee or whatever.

I find when I come from a place of love and serenity we all will work for what we need. hugs and let us know how it goes!

Maybe it is more what you put in, than you get out of it. But then to me you always get something back.

PP · ~*Service Worker*~

And you never know who you may be a blessing for at the meetings.....I have come to know that listening and being present with another is a gift for both.

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