Hi steps, welcome to MIP,

My alcoholic wife had a similar story for her recovery. After having had a round of rehab, 2 DUIS, staying in jail without bond for 10 days, when she got to the seconds rehab she finally said "I'm done. I will do whatever you ask me to". And she did. it was incredibly hard work, and still is, but she has persevered against all odds. I believe at least half the other women in her unit have relapsed, so hers is not a typical story. but it is a story of hope, because she decided she was going to do something about it and she did. she is now over 9 months sober.

Meanwhile, I hated the thought of having to go through 2 hours of family education to visit her on Saturday. Just another 2 hours out of my life that I had to devote to her and her problems. But I came around, and learned much in those sessions. One of the sessions was on the benefit of Al Anon. I had tried it once a year before but didn't get it but the second time around I did, and now I am in my own recovery program. You might want to try some meetings to supplement your AA.

Kenny

Hi and Welcome to MIP. This is a very friendly, caring group. If you ever have any concerns you can pm a mod anytime.

The frequently asked questions above the board can be helpful too!

We seem to recommend Getting Them Sober lots. By Toby Rice Drew, volume one.

Sounds like she did not make the choice to go into rehab on her own?

Most it takes many trips to rehab in their life. The best ones are the ones who keep people in even up to a year.

This is a very serious disease, learning a program of recovery fit to one individual person is vital.

I am so glad to see you are taking one day at a time. Everyday is precious.

Most A's I hate to say, relapse the first day out of rehab, especially if they did not do the call, get the ride there and head in. It has to be totally up to them. Then its the 90 meetings in 90 days in AA. They are still green in their recovery after a year. Some can hold a job, some cannot. They are on shakey legs growing up after getting on program.

I want to caution you about the job apartment and all that. She may be amazing and be able to get on the stick and love being clean on program and do wonders. Sometimes it takes years to get to a place of feeling secure and strong on program.

You are a wonderful mom to support her this way. Sounds like a challenge when you have so much drinking in your family.

I learned with the A's in my life, sometimes the only thing I can do is love them. The rest is up to them.

Sooooo glad you are here, we mean it when we say come back!!

 

Welcome and thanks for sharing about your family and situation with your daughter. Two things you have in your favor is your open mind and own recovery.  Both will come in handy for sorting things out.  It's great that you're attending Alanon and can receive the in person support offered.  If you haven't been, the newcomer orientation meetings can be very helpful if you're new.  Some meetings draw people with adult children who are active and you might find comfort in hearing how others are working a program and keeping their side of the street clean when torn between the love they feel for their child and the disease that has taken up residence.  I'm glad you found us and hope you'll keep coming back to share with us.  Best wishes for recovery for you and your family.  TT

Thanks for the update Steps You have done well .
Let us know how the meeting goes.