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texasgal


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I agreed to a date this past Saturday night. I was skeptical abt the whole thing but I went for the experience. We had a good time and I laughed a lot. We have been texting everyday and he makes me laugh so much. I never laughed with my ex...never. I was always in a horrible mood. My worst characteristics came out when I was with him. I could be having the best day at work or with my family and I would get home and feel so bitter and resentful. I am just taking this as a friendship. I feel ok being alone and I don't need this new guy to validate my worth. I know I'm worthy. Only time will tell all I know is that he makes me laugh. I'm grateful for the program, steps, sponsor and all my alanon friends :)

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Cathyinaz


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I would say keep it simple and just enjoy the company. Friendships are a good thing to have even if is a male friend.

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Just keep using your program and remember to keep the focus on yourself

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I wonder about that as well as I have met a guy, friend, who is just nice to talk to & is kind. I have a 6-month legal separation I must go through b4 I an get a divorce anyway. But, this didn't just happen. We have not been "married" in a long time & lived separely in the same house, sleeping separely, buying our own groceries and only communicated when absolutely necessary, other then him try to start fights. It is nice to just a have a normal conversation w/ someone w/o all the drama. 

I agree that SLOW is best, as we are wounded and need time to heal. And really get to know ourselves, alone, before we involved anyone else in our lives.

 



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Blessed, I have the same thing. We don't talk by phone much but we do touch base every so often and it's nice to just talk to a 'normal' person of the opposite sex without drama, LOL.

As others have said, Texasgal, just keep the focus on you. There is no rush and if you enjoy this man and he makes you laugh, you can establish a nice friendship and see where it takes you. So glad to hear that you are enjoying life and moving into a 'new frontier'!!! HUGS!

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