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Hi all. I am at the beginning of a week's vacation with my A. I am pleased to report that so far there is no drinking. There is way too much eating. No gambling either yet. I guess 2 out of 3 aint bad. I have a very draining job and I have been looking forward to being away from work. I thought I would want a break from alanon too. NOT SO! I couldn't wait to email my sponsor this morning. And I actually have more time so I can be on the board. This is my first vacation after a little morte than a year of serious work in recovery. I believe I am detached with love at the moment. I am not letting my A think that this vacation means we are fine. WE ARE NOT FINE unless she gets serious about her own recovery, and I am making that clear. She would like to be in a fantasy that now everything is wonderful. I will continue to give her the reality. I felt uncomfortable yesterday as we started out but really honesty is an amazing tool. At least as the words pass out of my mouth, her denial is jolted, even if just for a moment. I will use all of my tools i.e. I am powerless over her behavior and I can only control myself. Just for today, I am really OK. Thanks all, Lyne
We used to go through that vacation fantasy thing. My A, on vacation, acted like we were dating, and "in love". I would relax, and enjoy the vacation, but knew that a few days of vacation does not fix years of drinking and neglect.
I hope you continue to grow through your individual recoveries, and come out together on the other side.
Enjoy your vacation. I am on vacation with my qualifier too. I have had a rough occasion still I managed to do the right thing and let go for now as I am not home and need to keep things going. My H is well aware it is not a honeymoon. Easy does it.
Getting to the airport here, to my surprise the first thing I saw written in English was a sticker saying 'Easy does it'.
My HP sent me a little reminder from the get go.
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