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pinkchip


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This should not be a surprise and I guess it's not.  This comes from the 8 months I worked with adult clients in Rehab.  Most of them were Heroin addicts and this one was as well.  26 years old.  I worked really hard with him, his family...  He had issues with depression as well.  He could do okay in rehab, but stepping out into the real world was too much of a challenge it seemed.  The last time he was with us, he credited us for saving his life because he was suicidal and we kept him longer until he was much better and over 90 days sober before discharging him.  Alcoholism is horrible as well...Heroin speeds up the decline like ten times faster.  The combo of addiction and depression:  He could never quite get enough momentum in life to make his way.  He would get depressed, scared, relapse, use, vicious cycle.

26 is just WAY to young to die.  Feel so bad for his parents and siblings.



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I agree Mark It is a dreadful disease and so very painful for those who remain . You did all you could and I am sorry .

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Hugs to you PC and prayers for the family and friends. May his soul rest peacefully in the arms of his HP.

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So sad.

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thank you for giving him what you did! So horribly sad, its hard to know the pain this dear person was in. Maybe for him it set him free, but still hurts so very much.

I have felt so much sorrow for my xah. watched him in pain for almost 43 years. heroin, ludes, alcohol u name it. How he ever lives on and is 62 is beyond me.

I hope you know you gave all you could. thank you!



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So sad.....



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I'm sorry mark. Prayers for his family and yours. 

Mary



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Mark, I am thankful that in his short life he got to know you and feel the love and care.

Bless the helpers and the caretakers.

Temple

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Temple said it very well... I second her comments.  Very sad for everyone..... Prayers....

 



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smileYes, Mark, 'smack' as we call it over here speeds up the downward process...

as always we can only pick our selves up and carry on- hoping we have learned something.

Leaning by sharing is a great asset, and sharing the burden of grief the first port of call.

(((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((( Mark ))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))



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I'm sorry, Mark. Praying for you and for his family today.

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You did the best with what you had Brother...I know that journey and learned early on to remind the client and the family that the disease was very often a fatal one and not to have unrealistic expectations to early on.  How are you handling it?   (((hugs))) smile



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I've known people die before adulthood from heroin, it's so awful and so horribly hard to recover from.
Hugs. So sad.

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So sorry PC. You are such a great counselor. I can tell. So sad.

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So glad he had you in his life for a time, you most likely had a huge impact, so sorry. Keep your chin up.x

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He was so lucky to have you and Rehab! Sadly, he never learned that avoidance through drugs was not the answer, maybe this was accidental OD? Depression is a disease of the past and maybe he could never accept and let go of the past after he had left rehab in order to be present now.  Either way, his words echoed while in rehab showed how much he valued what you and your colleagues were doing for him. He could have come back to rehab this time too I imagine but something else happened that took him from this physical life. I hope that you don't feel like you let him down. You couldn't have know that this was going to happen and it could be the universe's way of helping him find the peace that he was yearning for. Let's pray that he has found it and is in a better place, maybe even spreading the word up there about all the great work you and your colleagues are doing down here for people like him. Sending blessings of strength and light to you and his family and friends. (((M))) from Shosh



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Hugs Pink .. You are such a blessing .. prayers to you and the family. One can only hope that he's finally found peace. Addiction is a vicious animal.

Hugs S

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Hey PC~Have been through a similar situation with a 24 yr old female about 7 yrs ago. It could not be determined if her overdose on prescription drugs was an intentional suicide or improper care by her physician. The family sued the M.D. and won. I attended the wake and funeral and to see a young person lying in a coffin, who is not going to have a life, was a horrible and disturbing experience. I have visited her grave several times and I tell her how sorry I am. It happened a couple days before Thanksgiving and a huge cloud was felt by me and of course, to her friends and family. Time heals but it will always be something that shouldn't have happened. And as a helper, I was unable to prevent. Lyne

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Hi Pink

As we know there are some poor chaps who cannot or will not see our way of life
We can't answer the riddle as to why this is

All I can do is give people hope
And a way to identify

A copy of the Big Book and my story can do that
And some prayer each night for these people
Real earnest prayer where I feel depleted afterwards
There is nothing more powerful

But we know we can't save them
And this is oftentimes the stark reality of the disease



-- Edited by WorkingThroughIt on Friday 22nd of August 2014 08:24:03 AM

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