Needing a sponser - Al-Anon Family Group

lookingup · ~*Service Worker*~

Needing a sponser

PP · ~*Service Worker*~

In my experience, I have come to believe that it is best to ask another woman, who you connect with, from your face to face al anon meetings. Are you attending face to face al anon meetings where you can connect with other women in recovery? I have also come to know that if a sponsee is not attending regular face to face meetings, sponsorship is difficult. That is one of my requirements, among others.

cloudyskies · ~*Service Worker*~

LU, you really need to be attending face 2 face meetings. While MIP is wonderful and I am so thankful I found it, I would be lost without my face to face meetings. For one thing, you need to feel those real hugs. If you haven't attended f2f meetings, I urge you to seek them out, first.

I'm glad to see you actively seeking help.

Breakingfree · ~*Service Worker*~

I agree with the others my face to face sponsor helped me through the steps and helped me to dig out off some big things, when I cried she let me and when I needed a hug she hugged me. She would look me in the eye and keep me accountable those things I couldn't have gotten without being in the same room as her. I know people have done it and if there is no other possible way for you, maybe you can find someone. I have been on MIP for a few years and it is a great support system, but for me nothing replaces my face to face meeting and nothing replaces my sponsor live and in person. Sending you love and support on your journey!

grateful2be · ~*Service Worker*~

I agree that attending the face to face meetings regularly is the first step towards finding a sponsor and working the steps. My first sponsor had to demonstrate to me that she was walking the walk before I'd commit to my part of the contract with a sponsor. The same thing is true with my second request for a sponsor. I had to know that person could help me work the steps because they demonstrated skill and progress in program. Although I think on-line sponsorship is a good thing, too - it isn't right for everybody and can only work well if somebody is actually attending meetings regularly and there are other forms of communication to include Skype or regular telephonic conversations available to both parties. In some ways, we aren't breaking our isolation if we just communicate on-line. Breaking our isolation by attending meetings is key to making progress in the program.

lookingup · ~*Service Worker*~

The only FTf meetings here that I can go to are in the next town they have them in the evenings which when time changes I can't see at nite to drive unless I can carpool with someone there that's coming from my town.which I can find out and will,I do have skype also.which that I'm hopeing will help in some way also.thanks for the esh.

hotrod · ~*Service Worker*~

Hi lU I believe that each and every member of MIP who responses to your postings are acting as an on line sponsors . A sponsor can only guide the sponsee, offer suggestions, and alanon tools that work. It is then up to the sponsee to PU the tools and use them.

Sharing here is a great tool. It is also very important, as at a meeting, to keep an open mind, listen to learn and practice what is suggested. We also have a Step Work Board that helps in understanding the Steps.

Putting all this support together and then attending meetings you will be on your way

grateful2be · ~*Service Worker*~

Time changes in a few months. It sounds as if you can drive to meetings now, LU? After being at meetings, you may meet someone who lives in the same area as you and would be willing to give you a ride?

PP · ~*Service Worker*~

Do you attend the online meetings here and participate in the step board? Since the time has not changed, yet, is there another reason you have not been attending? These are the kinds of questions a sponsor will ask...Betty is correct, we are acting as sponsors when we respond, however, we are not in lieu of your very own.

lookingup · ~*Service Worker*~

I'll have to check the step board out here,ty and yes I've got to get to a FTf meetings for sure ty agin,my recovery is very important to me,my town doesn't offer nothing here except Na and they have a aa meeting every now and then. But there's no alanon here.and my funds-are low and gas is high.so I'll just have to put that going out of town to a alanon meeting until next month on my pay day.but it is at the very top of my list as to do things.ty

PP · ~*Service Worker*~

Do the best you can, LU smile

grateful2be · ~*Service Worker*~

Good that you can attend Al-Anon on-line meetings here until you get to your face to face meetings, LU, when you get paid.

el-cee · ~*Service Worker*~

My meetings are the most important thing to my recovery, can you go and arrange a lift, in my experience members are really helpful. I think you will continue to struggle without meetings looking.x

cloudyskies · ~*Service Worker*~

I understand your dilemma LU. I have to travel three towns away to get to my meetings (a little over 25 miles one way) and I have problems seeing at night. I'm really worried about traveling at night when its gets dark earlier, (our meetings are at 8:00 pm) but I'm putting my faith in my HP that something will work out.

Like el-cee, my meetings are extremely important to my recovery. There may be someone you can carpool with, at least part of the distance. You'll never know if you don't go and ask.

praying you will find a way.

PP · ~*Service Worker*~

I have posed this to others to consider.....if you had cancer and your survival depended on chemo, would you find a way to get your treatment?

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