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texasgal


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My friend has dug herself in deeper she borrowed another $500 this weekend from a coworker and continues to lie for everything. I have blocked her number from my phone. I know she is miserable but I have to draw the line somewhere. I'm grateful for learning abt boundaries and when to separate myself from friends problems. I feel like I'm being mean but I can not stand to be lied to. I'm so grateful for the Alanon tools not only have I used them with my exAH but in other non healthy relationships. I used to put up with everything cuz of my low self-esteem and my wanting to be needed but not anymore. I am not a martyr or a doormat. My HP led me to this wonderful program that I dearly love. â¡â¡â¡

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Debilyn


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Super progress eh? Bet you feel lighter too.hugs!



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hotrod


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Program is fantastic and practicing these principles in all our afairs pays off

Good for you

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cloudyskies


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hi texasgal, doesn't it feel great when WE can see progress in ourselves. You aren't being mean to your friend at all. You are simply refusing to enable her negative behaviors, and in doing this, you are taking care of you.



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Breakingfree


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Boundaries are a hard one, but when done right you can keep your sanity and not go down with others. Good program at work, sending you love and support on your journey!

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grateful2be


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You are using your energy to rebuild your life. She can do the same if she chooses and runs out of enablers. By closing the door for now on her compulsions, you may be helping her find the door into an Al-Anon recovery room or wherever else she will find help for her problems. Good that you recognize your need to take care of you and are trusting enough to let her HP take care of her.

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I feel like I'm being mean but I can not stand to be lied to.

You are being love....love for you and love for her.  Well done.



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