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Katy


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Hello Mip so after spending a  few weeks away from home and I started to feel I needed to bring some things to a close, I have been lucky that my husband has remained friendly and loving in my absence and allowed me to come and go freely without obstruction or control, however he has not asked me about anything, like my plans and or our future so I asked him and he said he was hoping after a break I would come back home, well having been away from the drama I know now I have choices, to stay or go I get to choose, and I know for myself I need to know for certain what I want for me, and if this is the end of my marriage I don't want to go away with any regrets so I have come back home to see, but there has to be change here because I know if things go back to the way they were so will I and I am sick and tired of that, so I am home now and we are talking like adults, I am owning my part of things too and seeing how the things I have been doing impacts on my husband, I am trying to not be defencive and keep open,   what I have noticed is a dry brain is damaged too, it doesn't think like an healthy brain at all, and never will, and I have to accept this, or it will never work, I actually feel now like I love this man an awful lot more than I ever thought possible, looking in to my life from the outside, I don't get that yucky feeling, and I hope I don't ever get it again now that I am on the inside looking out, I take so much from mip, Debs gratefultobe, flower, Jerry F, Pinkchip, hotrod,Mattie, too many  to mention wonderful people that say it how it is, keeping it real, I bought papaya enzyme for my chewed up tummy at the suggestion of Debs, Thankyou Debs, pinkchip and Jerry F wow you are sooooooooo needed for your input from the other side, I need that, Hotrod with your oh so supportive nature and wonderful back up, John our John bless him, comes in and out with gems of wisdom, and all of the newbies that enter these rooms make mip a force to be reckoned with, gratefultobe  wow,your responces blow me away, because your an amazingly wonderful wise women, and to everyone else I love you all.

love

Katy

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(((K))) I can remember a woman named Etty Hillesum who for some reason comes to mind as I read your post. She chose to enter into the suffering of others and stayed with them until she died. I'm not saying this is or will be true for you. What I am saying is that your sharing reminds me of her for some odd reason. As you know, none of us can tell another person to stay or to go. It all has to do with motives, HP and purpose for me. Stay in touch with us, Katy. You are very, very dear to us.

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milkwood


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((((Katy)))))
You are such a lovely person. Thank you for sharing these boards with us.


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el-cee


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Katy, this sounds like a goodbye. Im glad you are doing what you need to do and at least you know what to do if it doesnt work out. I suggest Alanon, really working it because a lot of members say they cant cope with an alcoholic without that support. Good luck.x

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Katy I kept and stayed with my AH for awhile off and on too. gleaned every last bit I could of the husband I saw disappearing more each day.

I am not sorry or have any regrets. When he left and I asked him to also, I was so done, and sure. Still hurt but not having any question was good.

We are here for you no matter what!!!! love!

 



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Blessings, Katy.  You are loved here.



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