The material presented
here is not Al-Anon Conference Approved Literature. It is a method
to exchange
information, ideas, feelings, problems and solutions on a personal
level.
I have been to an AA convention today with Al anon participation.
My ABf is active again after two years sobriety. I stuck to my boundary after he stayed out over night and he moved out.
I can not believe how much I have changed, I have detached and I am grabbing on to al anon with both hands. Meetings every day, reaching out by phone, reading, meditating, praying. I have had moments were I have lost my mental sobriety I am grieving the loss but all in all not feeling to bad infact good at times. Wow it really works if you work it. I have learnt the hard way lots and lots of pain that I can not cure it !!!
I do not try anymore I pray and hand him over. But what I am noticing is how much I care for me today, how much I do not like the drama, feeling pain being miserable. When the grief hits I pick up an al anon tool.
I really can say I am a grateful member of al anon my commitment must be paying off.
(((Dear Tracy))) This is indeed a powerful share. I too have experienced the fantastic power of this program even when my son was in the dreadful grasp of this disease.
Being powerless is not being helpless. The pain of watching a loved one sink deeper and deeper into the disease is not willed away but by picking up the tools and using them we are giving ourselves a wonderful chance at life on life's terms
I salute you
Gracious Tracy you have done the work, followed the suggestions, duplicated what worked with and for others and practiced, practiced, practiced for yourself. You're getting what is called the "consequences". I'm happy for you and anyone in the program that is watching and wanting the successes you are having. Welcome home and thanks for passing it on. (((((hugs)))))
I am so very PROUD for you, Tracy!! The program does work when we work it. Thank you so much for sharing. It's an inspiration to us all! We all have to wade through the painful lessons of not being able to cure our alcoholic loved ones. Doesn't mean we don't love them.
I have found that working the program kind of like clears the cobwebs from my brain. I can begin thinking more clearly.
God Bless You, Tracy, and keep working the program.
((hugs))
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