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missmeliss


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I've seen this same picture through so many different eyes.

This is my favorite place so, I come here a lot.

For a long time, I would only come here with ABF (because if he didn't want to come then what was the POINT?) So I saw this view through tears, mostly, because we would do our best fighting when we were walking on the beach. I was always sad here. I was always wishing we could go back a few years, to a happy beach holiday we had once, when we shared moments and things felt good. I really clung to those memories, of a few short days when things felt magical between us, a long time ago.

Last summer, I brought my girl down here a lot to swim, and I felt lonely and tired (it's about a 30 minute walk from home which is plenty in the height of summer). I enjoyed it, don't get me wrong, but you know, when you're the solo mum carrying everyone's stuff in a backpack, supervising swimming, hanging on to the dog, and contemplating that long walk home...watching couples and families together on the beach...I was always hurt and asking "why am I the only one who has no-one?" here.

Today I looked at this picture through the eyes of someone who drove herself here because she felt like a walk on the beach. And it felt GOOD. SO GOOD.

I like this feeling. I like liking me and I like feeling happy without needing to be having a "moment" with someone else. (That was the only way I could feel happy before). Isn't that just so strange? That I couldn't feel happy unless someone else was happy about being with me? Approving of me and validating me? I can't quite get my head around it now, but that is how I lived for such a long, long time. It feels SO good to just be!

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Beautiful view of a part of nature. Beautiful that you drove yourself there!!!!!!!!!

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Just gorgeous!!

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Jill


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Oh that is gorgeous! What water is it? ocean? lake?

When you rent a new place, get one with lots of guest rooms.



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Beautiful, beautiful beautiful.   For now you can share these moments with your MIP peeps and let your car carry the extra weight.



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Beautiful picture and great,and powerful awareness. You are indeed a Miracle in Progres

Ms M. you are never alone. HP and (as Paula points out)your MIP family are always close by

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Well, Jill, if we look around the corner a bit we would be facing Tasmania so I guess, that is Bass Strait.

IF I win lotto this weekend I will buy this mansion that is near me, it looks over the view in the picture and has 16 bedrooms and it's the most beautiful old house you have ever seen. I'll totally make a guest house of it. I just need 2.7 million.

Actually do you know what? If everyone from MIP chipped in, I could buy it and we could make it an "MIP retreat". How cool would that be?

Lol, dreams are free







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Dreamin' is always better than schemin' or steamin'. I have the same dream, Melly.  The difference is that Liam lives there, too.biggrin



-- Edited by grateful2be on Thursday 14th of August 2014 01:54:30 PM

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Jill


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Now you're talkin!

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I miss the beach sometimes. I used to live within walking distance in CA. What a beautiful picture.....



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It looks beautiful melly, its not too long in recovery when you see things with your new eyes and suck the joy right out of nature, its amazing.x

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Your recovery is inspiring and awesome to experience, thanks for sharing with us!

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That's great progress! Here's to dreams of mansions on the beach (or cliff).

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Wow. Can I come visit? I've always wanted to travel. Wow. Lucky you!! Ok...is that a dog or a cat?? Or am I seeing things?? Lol

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That's a peace full picture Miss M...and a great description of growing up; with a drivers license no less.  I love lessons on self love.  It is also the one I had to learn myself in Al-Anon along with the lesson of "I love you (to the alcoholic addict) and I like having your here...and...I don't need you.  Sweeeet!!   ((((hugs)))) smile



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