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I'm staying as busy as can be ,I went and visited my friend yesterday came home and abf had left and took my yorky with him without calling me to let me know,I was irate when I got home calling his ph.he wouldn't answer his ph.then he finally called me to ask me if I would come pick him and my yorky up that his van broke down on him again I said no I hadn't the gas to run all the way up there he said they would walk I said fine.he got a ride here but when he got here he resorted back into his cocoon no vehicle so no way to get to work,so no job .he still has his cell ph though.i slept on the couch last nite for he gives me such a cold shoulder in bed that I refuse to sleep in there with him and take that too.i don't know what to do with him.i told him to never take my dog with him. Agin without me knowing it.he said fine I'll just leave I said there's the door go,he got on ph.and someone and they wanted him to pick something up for them and he said yes that he needed a favor of them to ask also and hung up ph.what a joke.he then took 3 flexerils it's a muscle relaxer to knock him self put I guess and went to bed and got up 1time this morning to get him something to drink made his mess and went back to bed.dunno whats gonna happen today.they get his van cause he owes back payments way too many.im just feeling sickly he has completly separated himself from me no talking to me,no communication but when I cook he is right in there hungry.today I'm gonna leave ,go to my friends and spend the day.get away from him maybe he will call someone to come and get him.or I may ask him if there's anywhere he can go to stay.i guess he will think I'm kicking him while he is down.but I'm not ,it's just all gone too far.i have to look out for me.and he could stay like this for days as long as I keep cooking and allowing him to lay in my bed .unless he gets the other woman to feel sorry for him or she may come and get him I dunno,what's his plans are to doing except hurt me mentally.or see how far he can push me before I snap on him.this will not work and won't work.he has my house key also.i got to get that back.
Hi LU
Good Morning. Try to let go of all thoughts of what he is doing, has done or will do. Try to focus on your day and what you can do for yourself to feel happy and safe. Remember you are powerless over him so it is important to keep all the power within your own sphere.
The serenity prayer, a meeting, a walk and visit with a friend are all great ways to take care of yourself. How about that asset and gratitude list - are you still writing it?
Keep sharing
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I am glad you posted this, I can very much relate, It took me awhile to learn how to say what I mean, mean what I say without saying it mean. Once I learned it I could get things out I was afraid to say before and it made all the difference in my communication skills. I am glad you are here and keep coming back. Sending you love and support!
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Sending you love and support on your journey always! BreakingFree
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" Pain is inevitable, suffering is optional."
"Serenity is when your body and mind are in the same place."
Keeping busy can be a good strategy, also a bit of meditation may help. Just reading the readers, thinking over what you have read, sitting with your thoughts a wee while sometimes works wonders for me. I think its important to be happy or serene and incontrol of our own attitude whatever the addict is doing or not doing, thats my goal and Alanon gives you instructions on how to do this. Go to a meeting if you can.x
